How To Be In Love.

Byline: Podcasts BY KAY HARRISON

Rylan Clark is back looking for The One - but he wants to do plenty of research before he gets serious.

He's been dating for "four long years" after his marriage imploded, and finds it hard to know if things are worth pursuing or if it's all just lust.

He's roped in some stars for BBC Sounds to discuss their attitudes and experiences of love, and the result is sweet and honest... and often hot and heavy.

Musician Rebecca Lucy Taylor - the whirlwind of a woman that is Self Esteem - does not hold back discussing a toxic relationship, her first love, bisexuality and the rules around non-monogamy.

She's currently dating a man she met while starring in Cabaret in the West End and he was playing a Nazi and admits falling head over heels has taken longer because she loves women more deeply. Self Rylan is also joined by writer and broadcaster the Reverend Richard Coles this week, who swapped sex, drugs and rock 'n' roll in the Communards for sermons. They discuss celibacy, or lack thereof, and Richard's heartache of losing his husband to alcoholism.

He is gloriously open on his past adventures, from Captain Kirk helping him to realise he was gay, to his Ibiza excesses, where he bought and lost a speedboat.

It's a free flowing conversation from the heart.

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Self Esteem