your life: SEX IS BETTER IN YOUR 60s, SAY MIDLAND WOMEN; Sex gets better as you get older, according to the experts - but an embarrassing problem could make your love life wilt. Lifestyle Editor ZOE CHAMBERLAIN reports.
WOMEN in the Midlands are enjoying sex more in their 60s than they were in their 40s.
That's the shock findings of a new survey by Dr Miriam Stoppard, the 69- year-old broadcaster, counsellor and health guru.
"Women get more and more comfortable with sex the older they get," she says. "Sex is better at 65 than it was at 45.
"The presence of children in the house can often put the dampeners on sex for mum and dad, especially when kids reach teenage years. But there is light at the end of the tunnel.
"More than one in three women said that children flying the coop led to much more sex than before. And, contrary to the commonly-held belief that a woman's sex drive wanes after the menopause, over half our women said theirs was heightened. Less than a third were disappointed by a lowered libido.
"But the really heartening news is that one out of two women finds that, as you get older, your orgasms become more intense and more satisfying."
Unfortunately, the survey did not have such a rosy outcome for older Midland men, who are more likely to suffer erection problems, called erectile dysfunction, as they age.
"All men experience erection problems," says Miriam. "But, whereas in young men this is usually transient, as a man gets older the problems can become ever-present.
"In the Midlands, men couldn't hope for a more understanding hearing than they'll get from their wives, who don't feel inhibited to discuss sensitive subjects.
They will talk comfortably about sexual needs and performance.
"Three-quarters of Midlands women are very sympathetic to their partners and, because sex means so much to them, will help to sort out any difficulties.
"So, if a man is prepared to trust his two greatest resources - his partner and his doctor - my survey shows that the problem need not signal the end of their enjoyment of sex.
"A man's partner can be his best friend.
They're particularly sensitive to him losing confidence because of the problem. They would encourage them to go to the doctor.
"In this way, women are doing the older man a real service in protecting his long-term wellbeing, as the complaint can be an early warning sign for serious health problems."
Conditions such as heart disease, diabetes and high blood pressure can often go undetected and the doctor's appointment could even prove a life-saver.
"Today's mature, sympathetic, sexy woman can save her partner's life and their sex lives, too," says Miriam.
Peter Daniel from Erdington, Birmingham, suffered from erectile dysfunction for three years before making an appointment to see his doctor.
But after successful treatment Peter, 64, and wife Gillian were finally able to enjoy a normal sex life.
"Overcoming impotence has done wonders for our sex life!" says Gillian, 62.
"It's now better than it was 15 to 20 years ago.
"I was delighted that Peter responded extremely well to treatment. The difference it has made to both our lives has been really significant. We would encourage more people to seek help, and not to give up at the first hurdle."
HELP & ADVICE
For free, confidential information and advice on erection problems and treatments available, contact:
Sexual Health UK (formerly Sexual Dysfunction Association) on 0870 774 3571 or visit www.sda.uk.net
Man Matters (for men with ED) on 08000 961184 or visit www.manmatters.co.uk
Love Life Matters (booklets for female partners of men with ED) from 0800 092 2412 or visit www.lovelifematters.co.uk
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|Publication:||Sunday Mercury (Birmingham, England)|
|Date:||Jan 21, 2007|
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