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Dear Coleen, Next month I'll have been with my boyfriend for two years.
We started living together after six months and since then his brother - who also lives with us - has made it hell for me. I have low confidence anyway and he's constantly putting me down.
It's getting to the point where I don't want to live here any more. I've tried talking to my boyfriend to explain how I feel, but it doesn't seem to work.
The only thing for it is to come straight out DNb mamh wt I go to bed most nights in tears. What do you suggest? I'm at breaking point.
dCT Coleen says..
and tell your boyfriend you've decided you're not living there any more - and spell out why so he's left in no doubt of your reasons. The likelihood is that his brother is insanely jealous of your relationship and is trying to split you up.
If your relationship is to survive something has to change.
Even if you did get on with his brother, living with him 24/7 would be hard - it's like having another person in your relationship.
It's not right that you're crying yourself to sleep every night - your home is meant to be your sanctuary.
If your boyfriend loves you enough, he'll help to sort this out.
And, if he doesn't step in then I'd question his commitment.