Your Problems: Men just terrify me.
AFTER reading your story about the teenager who beat his girlfriend, I was very upset and concerned for her. I'm 17 and used to have a boyfriend who beat me badly.
Then, one night another man raped me on the way home. All this stuff with men makes me feel so lost alone and depressed. My family isn't close so I just don't know who to turn to.
THE first thing to accept is you desperately need to talk to someone. The only person who knows what happened that night - apart from the man who raped you - is yourself.
The defilement and brute force used against you, has left you feeling spoiled and victimised. But you're none of these things. You weren't the perpetrator of this crime. Allowing someone you trust to convince you that you aren't a bad person is your way out of this misery.
Confronting what happened is an essential part of this, I'm afraid.
Start by writing it all down. Not just what happened, but all the feelings and emotions you had at the time and since. Make yourself as relaxed as possible by having a hot bath. Take the phone off the hook and begin.
Don't worry about producing a perfect essay, that isn't the point. Put what you've written straight into an envelope to use at any time. Then get in touch with your nearest Rape Crisis Centre, in the phone book under "R", and make an appointment to see a counsellor.
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|Publication:||The Mirror (London, England)|
|Date:||Dec 16, 2002|
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