Your Life: Dear Miriam - Gloom at job loss; ADVICE.
My boyfriend's a builder and is a victim of the credit crunch. He got laid off two months ago and has become depressed because he can't find any other work.
He sleeps a lot, doesn't joke around and tease me like he used to, and bites my head off at the slightest thing.
In the evenings he goes to the pub and comes home drunk. He was never a big drinker before and always came straight home when he was working.
I'm worried because his personality has changed so much and I don't like the way he is now. What can I do?
Research shows losing a job is harder to get over than being widowed or divorced.
Your boyfriend has suffered a severe blow to his ego and probably feels a failure but drinking to drown his sorrows is a mistake. Alcohol is a depressant and the least constructive way for him to cope with going through this rough time.
Do your best to encourage him to see his doctor about the depression and heavy drinking. Tell him you love him and have faith in him. It's a good idea for him to look at the Out of Work and Looking forWork Guide at www.direct.gov.uk as it includes practical help on ways into work, and financial support when you're searching for work.
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|Publication:||The Mirror (London, England)|
|Date:||Sep 3, 2008|
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