YOUR PROBLEMS: Dear Miriam.
I LOST my husband and live on my own, so I was delighted when a friend asked me if I'd get a house ready for the new parish priest as it was in a bad state. He offered me wages but I said I'd do it for nothing for the church.
But he hasn't given a word of thanks in nearly two years.
I clean, do his washing, iron, change beds and many other things when people stay. Don't you think I need a bit of thanks?
MOST priests have a cleaner or housekeeper normally paid to do the job. That's why this priest offered to pay you wages at the outset.
I understand why you're upset about being taken for granted. However, you seem to have mixed up what would usually be a commercial arrangement with a personal relationship.
I worry you might have become too reliant on this man to fulfil your emotional as well as spiritual needs. Perhaps you should look for ways to make other friendships outside the church environment.
If you had a business agreement you might feel happier - and maybe you should consider telling the priest you want to renegotiate the arrangement on more commercial lines.
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|Publication:||The Mirror (London, England)|
|Date:||Oct 31, 2003|
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