Woman who felt 'swindled' by hospital during first birth shares complex birth plan for second; The mum spent time devising a regimented birth plan that would set her mind at rest during labour.
A mum says she felt 'swindled' by her hospital after giving birth for the first time.
And she claims her complex birth plan she devised to put her mind at rest the next time round was refused by some doctors to being with.
The mum, who doesn't want to be identified and gave her name only as Sarah, said giving birth to her daughter was distressing.
In a personal piece on Parenting siteMamamia, Sarah, from Brisbane, Australia, wrote: "What the f*** just happened to me?
"I left the hospital feeling like I had just been swindled by a set of very well organised con artists after the birth of my first child".
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The lawyer and teacher said she didn't realise she had options during her first pregnancy and labour and so placed her trust completely in her given care providers.
Sarah, 31, was upset by how she was treated in hospital.
She said: "No one told me I could say no. I thought that in the public system you just get what you are given.
"Once I did realise and was negotiating my care to the best of my ability in hospital, I didn't realise how skilled care providers can be at carefully making sure that the train, you think you are now in control of, is deliberately set on a certain track".
Sarah endured lots of complications while givingbirthfor the first time.
She claims a caesarean was discussed, her husband wasn't allowed near her, and doctors debated whether to give her spinal or general anaesthetic without consulting her.
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The mum also says when her baby eventually 'pulled out' it was a while before she and her daughter were able to cuddle.
She said: "When I saw my body for the first time the next day, cannulated, stitched and covered in the remnants of all sorts of medical tapes and topicals I felt like I'd just come out of a war scene. I started crying and could not stop for days".
When Sarah becamepregnantagain she spent time formulating a specific birth plan with set instructions for medical professionals.
It is hugely specific, and when a senior obstetrician signed off on it, Sarah was initially informed some doctors may not follow it to the letter during birth, so she had to push for assurances.
It was refused by the first hospital, but a series of discussions and meetings at the second made Sarah feel much safer and happier.
She said: "I left the hospital feeling like it was a safe place to be. I cannot underestimate the significance of this; it was actually life-changing for me and my family".
Hospitals have procedures and systems in place. All hospitals are designed to cure unwell patients and ensure well people healthy but there are details that don't work for everyone.
Sarah thinks new mums should be involved in writing birth plans from the get-go.
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Please make every effort to support my attempt at an intervention free physiological birth:
* That my husband and doula are able to advocate for me if needed
* That my wishes in this birth plan are respected and not negotiated
* Support for an active birth
* Access to water for pain relief
* Respect of my hypno-birthing
* A photo of the moment my baby arrives on my chest
* Lotus birth
* Uninterrupted skin to skin for at least an hour
* Physiological third stage
Provided it is not an emergency situation, while I am labouring I do not consent to:
* Syntocinon drip or injection
* CTG monitoring or internal monitoring (but a doppler is OK)
* Internal exams for any purpose
* Any request to lie on my back
* Offers of pain relief
* An assisted birth and/or an episiotomy -- If this scenario looks reasonably likely to occur, please facilitate a different pushing position which further opens up my pelvis, allow me a reasonable amount of more time and finally, arrange for a caesarean.
I do not under any circumstances consent to a caesarean birth for 'failure to progress'. Should it become clear that a caesarean is needed for an alternate reason, please facilitate the following:
* Once my husband is scrubbed up, allow him immediate access to me.
* Include me in the process and do not engage in casual conversation around me.
* A spinal tap rather than an epidural or a general.
* Try and minimise my shaking (this was a big issue for me last time).
* Attach monitoring dots on my back rather than my chest.
* Drop the curtain as my baby is pulled out.
* Delayed cord clamping.
* Immediate skin to skin while in theatre (this is the most important thing).
* Photos of my baby's birth.
* I do not, under any circumstances consent to a hysterectomy.
The original piece stresses that the information, or opinions expressed in this article are solely those of the individual.
Always consult doctors and maternity experts in all matters of health during pregnancy.
The mum wanted to have a set plan (stock photo)
The mum wanted assurances her procedure would be followed (stock picture)
It was her third delivery of the day
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|Publication:||Daily Mirror (London, England)|
|Date:||Jun 3, 2018|
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