When pleasure is plus size: sex educator Elle Chase has bedroom tips for larger ladies.
Elle Chase was a curvy girl long before she was a sex educator who encouraged women to build their sexual confidence and accept their bodies, regardless of size or shape. The director of education at the Los Angeles Academy of Sex Education (laacademyofsex.com) and the force behind the award-winning sexuality websites ladycheeky.com and smutforsmarties.com, Chase stumbled into her sex education work the organic way, after leaving her husband of many years. "I longed to feel someone crave me," she writes in the introduction to her new book, Curvy Girl Sex: 101 Body Positive Positions to Empower Your Sex Life. "But, I thought, who could feel passion for a fat chick with cellulite, scars, florescent-white skin, and crooked teeth?"
"Truth," Chase explains, "was the impetus for this book." And the truth, she quickly found out, is that (of course!) a whole lot of people did crave her! Curvy Girl Sex, a visually tempting book full of flesh-friendly positions, sex-toy recommendations, and sex-positive pleasure education, takes Chase's readers out of the social constructs that attempt to convince us that fat can't possibly be sexy and toward the freedom that Chase herself found, and then some. We caught up with Chase to learn more.
YOU USE A VARIETY OF WORDS IN THIS BOOK TO CELEBRATE BIGGER BODIES, LIKE "CURVY" AND "PLUS-SIZE." YOU EVEN MAKE "FAT" SOUND SEXY! HOW CAN CURVY GIRLS AND THEIR PARTNERS FIND THE LANGUAGE THAT WORKS FOR THEM?
It's really up to the curvy girl in question. Their partners might listen to how curvy women refer to themselves, or, if it seems like a question that would be welcomed, just ask. It all comes down to intention. If your intention is to be respectful and loving, usually that can be sensed in the conversation.
YOU'RE A DYNAMIC SEX AND PLEASURE EDUCATOR. WHAT MAKES SEXUAL POSITIONS FOR CURVY GIRLS SUCH AN IMPORTANT TOPIC THAT YOU'D DEVOTE AN ENTIRE BOOK TO IT?
I think it's all about giving ourselves permission to receive pleasure. As a curvy gal myself, I was sometimes intimidated by certain positions I'd heard my friends talking about, or seen in porn. I didn't see myself being able to do these positions without ending up embarrassed or epically failing. What I discovered was that once I concentrated on how to make my body comfortable, with pillows or straps, and that it was OK to accommodate my shape, my partners didn't give it a second thought. That really freed me.
WHAT ARE THE ITEMS A CURVY GIRL SHOULD HAVE IN HER SEX KIT?
* A Liberator Wedge. Because it's made of industrial foam, it ups one's chances of comfort in ways pillows can't.
* I'd be bereft without my Magic Wand Rechargeable for its power and handle length.
* Lube makes everything easier and more pleasurable, and for that I only use Sliquid Naturals or Organics, because they're gentle on delicate skin.
APRIL FLORES IS JUST DECADENTLY DARLING AS YOUR MUSE IN THIS BOOK. WHERE CAN WE SEE MORE OF HER?
April is sexy personified, as sweet as she is beautiful. She's a trailblazer as the top plus-size porn star in the world. She loves her body and it emanates from her when you're in her presence. She is unretouched in this book and a terrific role model for body love and sexuality, as she owns hers enthusiastically. You can see more of her by visiting her website (fattyd.com) and on Instagram and Twitter at @TheAprilFlores.
YOUR BOOK IS EMPOWERING AND UPLIFTING. IN IT YOU WRITE, "WE ALL HAVE SEX APPEAL, BUT OUR SEX APPEAL IS NOT GOING TO BE EVERYONE'S DEFINITION OF SEXY." TRUE. SO, WHAT ARE YOUR TIPS FOR HANDLING REJECTION?
I always say "rejection is protection." Anyone who isn't interested in you isn't going to be right for you anyway. At the end of the day, people either get you or they don't. You want someone who WANTS to know you better, fuck you, or date you. Don't waste your time trying to be something you're not, or yearning for someone who doesn't reciprocate. You deserve better--we all do. We all deserve to spend time with people who value us and see us the way we are.
CALLING ALL CURVY GIRLS!
You don't have to be skinny to have the best sex of your life! In the Curvy Girl Sex class, you'll learn Elle's favorite tips and positions for curvy body types. Whether you've got a little junk in the trunk, are pleasingly plump, or beautifully buxom, this unique workshop will help every curvy girl enjoy toe-curling, curvy girl sex. (ellechase.com)
Caption: Elle Chase
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|Date:||Jun 1, 2017|
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