We worry for shy granddaughter at new school; THE STRAIGHT-TALKING PROBLEM PAGE.
Dear Coleen, OUR granddaughter, who is 10, will soon be embarking on secondary school, but the family are worried. Apart from her not liking school and being shy, she will be the only one from her old class there. Coleen says.. I'VE just been to see my daughter Ciara's new high school and I feel like it's a massive leap, too.
She's gone from looking like the eldest to looking like a baby again.
She's shy too. Not so much with kids, more with teachers and putting her hand up in class.
It helps to visit the school. Meet her headteacher and explain to her that your granddaughter is terribly shy so everyone is aware of it and can help bring her out of herself.
At home, start building up her confidence. Explain that the other kids will feel the same and not to be worried about getting things wrong.
Tell her it doesn't matter because you're at school to learn.
Ciara recently told me she's going to be much more outspoken in class because if you're shy the teachers call you out more often to try to make you confident.
The teachers at your granddaughter's new school will know what the other kids are like and they'll find friends to suit her.
Make sure she knows never to be frightened of telling a teacher if she has any worries.
Take heart, though, kids are pretty resilient. She might surprise you all and really thrive in high school with different friends and teachers.