We're obviously not good enough to meet his folks.
Dear Coleen My daughter has been going out with a man for a year and she's slowly becoming ashamed of us.
His parents are very rich and a bit posh, whereas me and my husband don't have much. His parents travel all the time and wear expensive clothes and eat all sorts of different food.
My daughter is always going on about how wonderful they are and, if I'm honest, I find it very hurtful to hear her talking like this.
Things are becoming quite serious with this new bloke and they're thinking of moving in together, so I've suggested they come round to our house for dinner - but my daughter keeps making excuses.
I know it's because she's ashamed of us.
I'm so hurt but I don't want to upset my daughter. Should I just keep quiet? Coleen says You know what, I think you've got this all wrong. I'm not sure that your daughter is ashamed of you.
I think it's you who feels inadequate and insecure and you're projecting this onto your daughter. You think they're better than you, so you're assuming she does, too.
There might be genuine reasons why no dinner is happening so don't think your daughter is just making excuses.
Because it's the first time you'll be meeting, why don't you all go out for a meal? That will take the pressure off you.
And remember, just because they have a bit of money it doesn't mean they're stuck up.
Please don't push your daughter away over this. If you want to, tell her that you're feeling a bit insecure and I'm sure she'll reassure you.
They are very rich, whereas we don't have much
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|Publication:||The Mirror (London, England)|
|Date:||Sep 26, 2013|
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