The Seasons of Life.
Life is best described metaphorically as continuously transitioning from season to season. Successful people do not try to avoid certain times of the year; instead, they embrace the flow through winter, spring, summer, and fall. They do not just overcome, for instance, the difficult season of winter, but actually thrive during the harsh cold; blossom throughout the spring; ripen in summer; then reap a lush harvest for fall, thus preparing for winter. Such cyclical expectations and preparations are mindsets that are key to sustained and against-the-odds success.
Here are tips on how to be confident and courageous through every season of your life:
* Fuel future successes with past achievements. It is easy to feel like a failure after a particularly harsh setback and, even the most empowered of us can, at times, doubt ourselves. However, no matter where you are in your career or life, you unquestionably have done something that has made an impact. Not every past achievement needs to be as profound as, say, saving a life, but find those times you made a difference in the world and know that you can do it again. * Invest regularly in the power of you. Do you ever get to the end of the day, week, month, or even year and feel like you have not accomplished anything? Chances are you have accomplished much more than you realize but, without any tangible, physical evidence, it can be difficult to bring those accomplishments to mind. Every time you accomplish something or do something good, write it down on a slip of paper and put it in a jar. Watching that jar fill up is empowering--and whenever you are feeling bad or doubting yourself, just reach into the jar to get a reminder of what you already have accomplished.
* Channel your inner prize fighter. You can learn a lot from boxers. They spend three minutes fighting each round and 60 to 90 seconds resting. During that time in between rounds, they refuel, get advice, and receive encouragement. Imagine how disastrous it would be if the trainer said, 'You're going to lose" or 'You should quit"? Yet, we allow negative people in our corners all the time. Is it any wonder we are getting knocked down? When channeling your inner prize fighter, it is important not only to come out swinging, but to make sure the people with you truly are in your corner.
* Cease self-doubt with an actual "Stop" sign. If there is one piece of self-help advice you've heard ad nauseam, it probably is, "Do not speak or think negatively." Wonderful advice but, for many, it can be quite difficult to follow. An effective way to keep your motivational level up is to use visual cues. If you want to stop thinking negatively, get an actual stop sign; it does not have to be full-sized, just big enough to be a reminder. Any time you are doubting yourself, seeing the stop sign will be the trigger to hit the brakes and get back on track.
* Do not outsource your success. If you have achieved something, surmounted an obstacle, or had any sort of triumph, take credit for it. This does not mean becoming a glory hog, but it does mean taking credit where credit is due. Allow yourself to be seen as successful and you will feel successful, too.
--DeLores Pressley, life coach and keynote speaker
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|Title Annotation:||LIFE IN AMERICA; tips on how to be confident and courageous|
|Publication:||USA Today (Magazine)|
|Date:||May 1, 2019|
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