The Right Approach.
I was pleasantly surprised that he was awarded D.Lit. at the age of 74. Usually people stop their research when they complete 'Ph.D' which enables them to add a prefix 'Dr' before their names. Kasliwal did not stop at it. It was very edifying to see him continuing his learning and research. Replying to the felicitations from many dignitaries and friends on the occasion he suggested the secret of living and working in fellowship: "You are right; I am right; why fight"? During the many personal conversations, he used to speak similar practical one-liners full of meaning.
In the present context of competitions and conflicts one tries not only to prove oneself right but also makes use of the maximum opportunity to prove the other wrong. This generates conflict. The innumerable conflicts we witness in communities, families and socio-political life are due to lack of awareness; awareness about themselves and others. Usually every one has a tendency to find fault with others without realizing that he/she has more serious faults. Without making any effort to correct oneself, one accuses the other. This creates unpleasant feelings and conflicts.
Philosophers and saints have repeatedly taught us that right and wrong exist in the mind of people. It is our subjective feeling and experience which makes a person good or an action right. While we do not see any wrong in a person who is dear to us despite his many faults, we condemn another for the same action if one is hostile to us. Our judgments are subjective, influenced by prejudice and related to the limited context.
People will invent hundreds of arguments to justify and defend themselves and prove that they are right even if the whole world brings out thousands of arguments to prove them wrong. Yet they will not be willing to listen and understand the arguments of the other to explain the circumstances and reasons for their action. They quickly pass judgment on people and condemn the innocents leaving no room for dialogue.
Debates in Parliament, discussions in seminars and conversation in families get blocked because of this approach: 'I am right, you are wrong'. Accusation, condemnation, judgments and labeling destroy peace and friendship in the families and institutions. Every one is busy to prove that he/she is right. They charge the other for all the wrong doings and pass judgment on them. The result is hatred, hostility and fight. The approach 'you are right, I am right, why fight?' is the secret for peace and harmony. Right and wrong depends on each one's perception of the issue, background in relationship with one's faith. Accepting this diversity is important for building up a harmonious society.
Can't we perform our duties without accusing others? Can't we correct the wrongs of others by doing things rightly without blaming others? Instead of blaming and judging others why don't we look at the positive qualities of the other? By speaking and thinking negative we are spreading negative energy all around which affects the whole world. Even the negative comments said in private conversations affect the world peace adversely. By looking at things and people positively we send out positive energy which reaches to the ends of the earth. Then there is no room for fight.
'You are right; I am right; Why fight' is not a formula of compromising values and surrendering one's identity and self-respect. It is a spiritual tool for establishing peace and friendship with people of diverse faith, culture and temperaments. It is accepting, appreciating and promoting pluralistic spirituality which is the plan of God. God has thousands of names and shapes; He speaks innumerable languages; He belongs to all cultures. God cannot be limited by the incomplete knowledge of one's faith, culture and language. He incarnates himself in every culture. No one has the monopoly of God and truth. The best formula for peace and friendship is, "you are right, I am right; why fight?' Can we make it our policy of life?
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