Son wants to marry a right witch.
Q MYson is about to make the biggest mistake of his life and I don't know how to stop it.
He is 27 and has two kids with his ex-partner. Although they're not together any more, I have a good relationship with her and my grandchildren. She is a really good mum.
But my son has walked out on her and the kids to live with a 43-year-old woman, who has four children and a grandchild.
What he sees in her I just don't know. Neither do his friends, who are as shocked as I am.
This woman is overweight, foul-mouthed and her kids are out of control. Her daughter was only 14 when she had her baby.
But despite all this, my son says he loves her and wants to marry her.
He seems to think we should all be happy for him and even wants his daughter as a bridesmaid.
Her mum, rightly in my opinion, says she's not having it. I'm not someone who interferes in her children's lives.
Nor am I one of those women who doesn't want her son to get a wife.
If he was marrying the mother of his children, I would be over the moon.
I am at my wit's end about how to bring him to his senses.
I don't believe in witchcraft or magic but the hold this woman has on him is so strong, it's like she's put a spell on him.
A IF I was your son's mum, I too would probably be tearing my hair out.
But that doesn't mean you can or should do anything more. You've given him your opinion, no doubt in the strongest possible terms.
But he's a grown man and must be left to make his own decisions for good or, in this case, very likely ill.
Now you have to button your lip. Your main priority must be your grandkids who must also be hurting at their dad leaving home. Fortunately, despite everything, you and their mum have managed to maintain a decent relationship which is a credit to you both and a bonus for the kids.
They need you now more than ever. But they don't need you bad-mouthing their father to them, no matter how great the provocation.
No one can condone his conduct but he is still their dad and you don't want to cause even more friction.
Maybe it's too much to ask you to welcome his new partner, but try to stay civil. The more you criticise her, the more he'll feel driven to defend her. And you never know, it might all work out.