SEX LIFE HAS SUFFERED SINCE BABY.
Byline: THE STRAIGHT-TALKING PROBLEM PAGE email email@example.com Dear Coleen.
Dear Coleen I'M A woman in my mid-30s and my daughter is coming up to her first birthday. She's our first child and was very much wanted by my husband and me.
Family life is good - we feel so lucky - but our sex life has really suffered. It's actually my husband who's causing the problem.
He just seems disinterested and is always on his iPad or watching telly. Once we get into bed, he just turns over and goes to sleep.
I have mentioned having more sex to him (once when I was a bit drunk) but we never talked about it again. What do you think? Coleen says BECOMING parents is a big adjustment. As well as the tiredness and suddenly having far less time for yourselves, you have to adjust to seeing each other in new roles - parents rather than just partners and lovers.
That can be a big shift in mindset for some people. Life simply isn't as sexy any more.
I totally understand it can feel awkward and embarrassing to bring up sex (or the lack of it), especially if that part of your life together has always been straightforward. However, it's important and the longer you avoid it, the harder it is to confront.
Take the lead and book a babysitter to spend some time just with him. But if you try to ramp up the romance and he doesn't react to it, then you'll have to be direct - but do so without being accusatory.