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Ouch, that's smart! Seems your BFF is "gifted and talented." So where does that leave you?

Your best friend is in honors math and advanced language arts, otherwise known as the "smart" classes? Keep your friendship in check without feeling like you've been reduced to her intellectual inferior.


No, your IQ hasn't taken a nosedive if your classes aren't on the same level as your friend's. It just means you have to work a bit harder in some subjects and that your strengths lie elsewhere. Your BFF has always been into history, while you strum guitar. You're a whiz on the computer but couldn't care less about how to dissect a frog. Everyone is smart in different areas of life. Know what you're good at, and have fun doing it.


Some anxiety over this is expected, but don't be so hard on yourself ... or your BFF. It's not her fault your classes are different. Whatever you're feeling, don't take it out on your friend in a negative way. You're her bud, so be supportive. Sure, she's smart--but it took a whole lotta book-cracking to put her at the head of the class. She deserves props.


This new class schedule has you and your friend split up for most of the day. So hook up at lunch, sign up for some of the same extra-curriculars, and clock in after-school hang time. You two will have different teachers and classmates, so you'll have so much more to dish about--like that row of hotties in English. Also, you and your BFF could F share a locker. That way, you can meet up between classes, switch up your books and pass each other notes.


So you're not in GT geometry, but you can pull your absolute personal best in algebra II. Be inspired by your bud's scholastic ways, and spend a little more time each day hitting the books and reviewing your notes. If you get stumped, you have the best-ever study buddy so recruit her as a tutor.

Also, work to hone your true talents. Use your American Idol-ness to land the lead in a play. Spread your love of oil-painting over a series of canvases to steal the art show. Take all-around gold at this season's gymnastics championship. Your BFF might graduate valedictorian, but that doesn't necessarily add up to Most Likely to Succeed. We'll let you in on a little secret: There's enough success to go around for everybody.



Have all your necessary school supplies? You might think you're well-prepared, but do you trove cutesy notepaper to pass between classes and cool quizzes to stuff in pats' lockers? No? We didn't think so--and that's why we're giving away 10 prize packs each with Diary Girt Notes and Coke or Pepsi?: 1,000 Questions to Ask Your Friends. If you're pumped about this pack, drop a note to Pass It On, GL, 4517 Hafford Road, Baltimore, MD 21214 by Sept. 15.


My BFF and I are on the same field hockey team. She gets ultra-competitive, and it hurts my feelings. It's a game!

How can I tell my bud she's too competitive without making her mad at me? I don't want a field hockey game to come between us.

Friendship is worth so much more than field hockey. Talk to her. If she's a good friend, she'll listen and care. Maybe you could talk to your coach for solutions. Field hockey is a team sport. Soon, your BFF should realize that being friends is not a game.

--Zayna Seyedi, 12

With most aggressive people, competition is part of their personalities. Sometimes, even best friends are competitive. Compliment her on her field hockey skills. That way, maybe when you make a good pass she will give you props too.

--Becca, 15

That's a tough situation. Tell your friend how you feel. Your friend might back down from her competitive edge so you can enjoy the rest of the season. If you don't tell her, how will she know she's hurting your feelings?

--Erin Cooper, 11

I would tell her not to be so competitive. Explain that it's just a game and not worth affecting your friendship. If you're nice about it, you two should be able to work it out together.


I don't play field hockey, but I do play softball, soccer and basketball. If my BFF were to hurt my feelings, I'd let her know it. Maybe she doesn't get that she's hurting you. If she doesn't stop after knowing how you feel, maybe she isn't a true BFF.

--Mykaela, 10
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Title Annotation:managing friendship with best friends
Author:Balderson, Brooke
Publication:Girls' Life
Geographic Code:1USA
Date:Aug 1, 2006
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