Make your RSVP count--please reply, really!
You might say food or beverages, maybe people and all of those would be correct. But, they also have something else in common ... your RSVP. I have always thought that it meant Reserved for a Very Special Person, but the S for special was out of line ... if that makes any sense.
To find out that R.S.V.P. stands for a French phrase, "repondez s'il vous plait" which simply means "Please Reply" made me laugh. Four words that translate to two and somehow we have picked that up and use it quite often, without really knowing what it truly stands for.
So, let's say you get an invitation in the mail for your best friend's wedding. It is going to be the shindig of the year and you can't wait to go! In all of your excitement and putting it on your calendar, so you don't forget, you miss the part that says, "Please call 867-5309 to RSVP." It happens all the time, trust me. Now, you show up at the wedding and the person taking everyone's name asks you for yours; you tell them your name, they check the list and "oopsies" your name isn't there. How terribly embarrassing. You then try your best to explain that you have been friends with the bride since you were kids, on and on.
Finally, they let you in, but only after your cheeks are blushed and you are sweating from embarrassment. Good thing that most weddings aren't that regulated anymore. Few Belles of the Ball still around.
Anyhow, on the other end of the stick, you did RSVP and at the last minute, your brother calls and says, "Hey sis, let's go and have dinner and catch up." It isn't every day that your brother calls, right? He probably wants something! You accept his invite and you miss the wedding thinking no big deal, right? Well ... it sort of is a big deal. The bride, in all of her wedding planning, took the number of RSVP's and gave it to the caterer so there would be enough food, plates and dessert for everyone, at a conservative price of $25 per person.
So, for conversation purposes, say 12 people RSVP'd with the bride and then they all had something come up, thinking they wouldn't be missed. That would cost the bride $300 in food that will most likely go to waste. You would hope that 12 people who did not RSVP would show in your place, but that would be 12 people that will look silly because their names aren't on the RSVP list.
Do you see where I am going with this?
One way or another, make your RSVP count. As a friend, co-worker, business or family member, when you RSVP, make it a priority. When you don't, remember they may not be prepared for you!
In my humble opinion, RSVP should stand for, "Be respectful when you give an RSVP to someone that is taking the time to plan for you." If you say you will be there, be there. So, when asked for a "Please Reply," send them your RSVP!
By Lindsay Everhart
Membership & Events Director