MUM PREDICTS A BLEAK FUTURE.
Dear Coleen I HAVE been in a relationship for nearly eight months. Everything was going well until my mother checked our horoscopes, which are respected in my culture.
She found that he could be disloyal and, if we ever got married, then I would never be happy.
Since then, my mother and I haven't seen eye-to-eye and we hardly ever speak. We were extremely close before this all happened.
Now she's saying she doesn't like my boyfriend and doesn't want me to be with him and that I must choose between him and her. My boyfriend is very supportive and told me to do what I feel is right.
I love my mum but I don't want to break up with my boyfriend because I really love him. I don't know what to do.
Coleen says I LOVE reading my horoscope and we can all find something in them if we are looking for it. But I don't think it's wise to rule your life by them and I'm pretty sure you'd have to go to a professional to have your charts done properly to get an accurate reading.
I wonder if your mum is being completely honest - maybe she's never been keen on your boyfriend and now she has a reason to speak up? Or it could be that she realises you really like this man and is frightened to death of losing you. But she'd be better off admitting that than doing what she's doing.
I think unless she gives you a real reason instead of blaming it all on horoscope, then you should stand your ground. Parents don't always like their child's choice of partner - that's just a fact of life.
Your boyfriend sounds like a sensible guy - he's not badmouthing your mum and demanding you make a choice. It has to come down to what you want. If you choose to stay with your boyfriend, hopefully your mum will come round in time.
If you give in to your mum, you're also accepting that she can make these big decisions for you. Are you happy for her to rule your life in this way?