Love cannot be forced or trapped.
My cousin disappointed me, she is just 14 years old and now she is pregnant. I asked her why she did that and her reasons are all simple. She said her friends were always laughing at her that she did not yet have sex. Some were saying she is so 'uncool' and weak.
Yes, it's tough when you are excluded from a group of friends. The threat of being 'uncool' or losing the acceptance from classmates and friends often forces kids to try sex or even do things which are against their cultural backgrounds or religion.
Say no, the friends who are laughing when you won't give in will turn away. If you say yes, they might lie and say that they had just to encourage a friend to do it. Having a guy's baby or making a girl pregnant will not guarantee their love. Love cannot be forced or trapped. Doing this will chase that person away.
You do not have to prove your love or friendship through sex. Anyone who asks you to risk your life and future is not a friend. The important thing to remember when dealing with someone who's hassling you for sex is to have a straight and direct reply. Maybe that person already suffers from disease likes STDs, even HIV/AIDS for that matter. These diseases can surely kill you.
Life nowadays is too expensive, therefore take care of your own life, you MUST do it yourself. Do not let anyone do that on your behalf otherwise HIV/AIDS will terminate your life instead of natural death. Kids, you are too young, you must be patient, okay!
--Rebekka Sallie Niitembu, 17 years Grade 11, Nehale Senior Secondary School, Ondangwa
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|Author:||Niitembu, Rebekka Sallie|
|Article Type:||Letter to the Editor|
|Date:||Mar 1, 2004|
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