Love and legislation is all you need.
It wasn't so long ago that many conservatives, Mike Pence included, were proclaiming that "gay marriage" would devalue all marriage, destroy the family unit, and cause the downfall of society. In 2011, in an interview with the New York Times, Donald Trump compared same-sex marriage to a golfing trend. "It's weird. You see these great players with these really long putters, because they can't sink three-footers anymore. And, I hate it. I am a traditionalist. I have so many fabulous friends who happen to be gay, but I am a traditionalist."
A book I never hoped to see published or imagined having to read is The Trump Survival Guide by Gene Stone, "dedicated to the American ideal that our nation is governed by the majority but never at the expense of the minority." LGBTQ folks are finding themselves in a minority that is being nudged to the margins, if not erased, by the current administration. While I want to believe that "love is all you need," legislation does matter. I would not be writing this without the Obergefell Supreme Court ruling that made same-sex marriage a nationwide right. More than 100 anti-LGBT bills have been introduced in 29 states in the five months since Donald Trump took office. So far, a proposed roll-back of same-sex marriage isn't one of those bills, and it would seem to go against the beliefs of many, including American Millennials. A 2015 Boston Globe survey found that 82 percent of Millennial Democrats and 59 percent of Millennial Republicans supported same-sex marriage. Those figures would probably be higher today.
Marriage equality in the U.S. has seen LGBT couples increase spending and formality on ceremonies. Acceptance has also increased. According to a recent study by Community Marketing & Insights, 60 percent of couples say their parents were supportive of their marriage.
In May, soccer player Abby Wambach married her fiancee, Christian blogger Glennon Doyle Melton and shared the news on Instagram with an image of Wambach in a sweatshirt with the logo "Christian Mommy Blogger's Wife." It shouldn't matter if you're queer or Christian or both--you should be able to marry the love of your life. You should even be able to divorce the love or your life, if things don't work out. Since we're accustomed to experiencing ourselves as outlaws and our relationships as not socially condoned or legally binding, you may want to consider investing in a book like Before I Do: A Legal Guide to Marriage, Gay and Otherwise by Elizabeth F. Schwartz.
This is our Love issue, and inside we celebrate many formal expressions of love and commitment from diverse couples in different locations. We also remind readers to safeguard their health--sexual, psychological, and physical--which still needs to be maintained even within a committed relationship. Love isn't as random as Cupid's arrow. Getting it and keeping it need to be worked at. Decades of activism and visibility gave us the right to formalize our romantic unions--and vigilance will give us the right keep it.