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Laughter is lost in all the shouting at children; Supermam says...

QIt seems that I spend my entire day shouting and being angry at my two children and have forgotten how to have fun and laugh with them. I am finding it very hard at the moment and know I need to learn to control my temper and relax more... but how? AFirst things first. Give yourself a pat on the back for recognising that it is your behaviour that needs to change to improve your relationships with your children.

For many, this is very hard to even recognise but the fact that you actively want to improve is fantastic.

Anger, tension and stress can have a massive daily impact on families. Parents with a short fuse can easily become wound up, tense and can take it out on their children. It can also stop you from enjoying the experience of being a parent and having fun.

It is important to be able to understand what makes you trigger.

By understanding how you react to certain situations you will be able to monitor and manage times when you feel your emotions are getting out of control.

When this is happening it is important for you to get away from the situation to give yourself a chance to calm down and re-collect.

Some people benefit from having an outlet where they can safely let off some steam.

This can be done through exercise, walking, dancing to music -some people even choose to go to the mirror and give themselves a good talking to!

Think about how your body reacts to anger, rapid breathing, tense muscles and faster heart beat all fuel anger outbursts.

When things are getting heated, try to retain a level of physical calmness, relaxed breathing will help you retain control when the pressure is on.

Try to get out of the house more with the children. Often people find themselves frustrated with doing the same old daily routine. A change of scenery will help you all to have more fun away from daily pressures.

Most important for you is to make sure you have some quality down time, away from the children and pressures of family life. There is nothing more calming and relaxing than taking some time out to do your thing.

Accept that changes to your personality will take some time and practice, and there will be some setbacks along the way, but keep positive and this will help you restore calm and peace.
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Title Annotation:Features
Publication:Evening Gazette (Middlesbrough, England)
Date:Jun 18, 2010
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