IS NEW MAN JUST ANOTHER FWB?
Byline: PAGE 30 DAILY RECORD Wednesday, June 22, 2016 MoRe aT DAILYRECORD.co.UK Dear Coleen@dailyrecord.co.uk
Dear Coleen, I HAVE recently left a "friends with benefits" relationship and have now met a new guy who is sweet, charming and calls or texts just to see how my day is.
Everything seems great and we've been seeing each other for about six months. However, I'm seeing things about him that were like my FWB. He doesn't take me out and just wants to stay at my flat with me.
I'm not going to have sex with him again until I feel he wants a proper relationship. I want to take it to the next level, but I don't know to approach it.
Coleen says JUST approach it. Otherwise, you'll be sitting there two years down the line and no further on. He's not a mind-reader and, at this early stage in the relationship, he might be happy being at home with you. But you simply need to have an honest conversation so you each know where you stand.
You're wary of ending up in another FWB arrangement, so instead of trying to second guess the situation, take control of it.
And if it turns out that he's promising things he doesn't mean, then end it and move on.
Refusing sex is just confusing for him and won't give you the answers you're looking for.
All you have to say is that you don't want a FWB arrangement like you had before - you want a proper rounded relationship.
And you'd like to enjoy the dating phase by going out more. Take the initiative.