IS JOB-MAD BOYFRIEND THE ONE?
Byline: Dear Coleen email email@example.com
Dear Coleen I'VE been seeing my boyfriend for three years and I've always come second to his business. He runs car dealerships and had done very well for himself, building a great business from nothing.
I used to be incredibly proud of him and he's generous with his money, but not with his time.
I hardly ever see him and, when I do, he's always on his phone or totally exhausted. He lets me down all the time and I can't see him ever being around if we got married and had a family.
I'm in my early 30s and need to make decisions about where I'm going in life and who I want to be with. Am I overreacting? Coleen says HE SOUNDS very driven and work is clearly his main focus - and that might never change. So would you be happy with that? You're looking for more commitment after three years of dating, so tell him that. I don't know if you've ever had the conversation about how you see your futures, but I think now is a good time. Maybe he's been so busy with work, he's just never stopped to think about it all. I know a few workaholics who thrive on the pressure of work, but it can be hard for partners.
I doubt you'll be able to change him but you might be able to find a balance that works for you both if you lay your cards on the table and are honest with him about how you feel.