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I share my terrible dates to help other guys find love; Paul Thomas Bell found blogging about his dating nightmares helpled him land dream job sharing his stories and advice WORDS ANNA BURNSIDE.


Terrible dates. We've all been on them. The weirdo off the internet who wears a fleece to a fancy bar. The friend of a friend who is a total blast and then disappears off the face of the earth.

What most of us haven't had the good sense to do is to turn a lifetime of Friday night humiliation into a lucrative career.

Paul Thomas Bell has that market cornered.There are thousands of women sitting on their beds in unlikely combinations of clothing, pouring their pain on to their laptops while channelling Carrie Bradshaw. But very few fellas have thought to share their feelings about anxiety, girls and office romance with the internet.

Glaswegian Paul did and his dating blog,, is doing very nicely for him.

I have in so many situations I have 1000 to tell. Some experiences The 29-year-old has been shortlisted for awards and asked to write for magazines and other websites. By using Twitter to promote his own work, he became the kind of expert who gets a job doing social media and blogging for other companies.

had belong Jeremy Paul said: "Not a lot of guys are writing about dating. A bit of male bravado comes into it - we don't like admitting certain things.

"I've written a lot about guys suffering from anxiety and being self-conscious. Guys are quite emotional - they just don't like anybody to know about it.

"When I started doing my blog, I decided I was going to be really honest. I'm not going to write what people want to hear. I'm going to write the truth, even if it puts me in a bad light or guys in a bad light."

Paul does not do moany, bitchy or bare-faced misogyny.

He added: "I'm always positive, upbeat and lighthearted. Even if I have bad experiences, I don't believe in being bitter.

"I've been in so many crazy situations, I have 1000 stories to tell. I've never claimed to be a dating expert, I'm just a guy whose had experiences.

"I don't want to speak to guys and say, 'This is how you get a woman into bed'. I try to be very real - no games, no tricks, how to conduct yourself round a woman. My main focus is on being yourself."

Paul tried other subjects before alighting on his amorous adventures.

He said: "Initially, it was an experimental food blog that lasted 10 minutes and one horrific vegetarian burger."

Blogging came after a mix-and-match decade of education and dead-end jobs.

Paul added: "I did well at school and went straight to university but from the second I left school, I lost my way. I didn't know what I wanted to do. I tried business studies, interior design and agriculture. I left them all."

Paul drifted into a call centre. Despite hating it, he stayed for five years. He left to go travelling, came home when the cash ran out, and ended up in Glasgow with his headset on again.

He said: "When I got back, I thought, 'I can't go back to call centres' but I had absolutely no money. I ended up back in the booth but this time with a focus on the side.

"I'd be in my call-centre job. As people were talking in my ear, I was sitting at my desk blogging. I worked on it every time my manager turned her back."

been crazy and stories of the I've on Kyle " Paul used Twitter to tell the world that his adventures with mad emo girls were online.

First of all, men's mags and other blogs and websites asked him to contribute. Then a Glasgow businessman who liked his Twitter presence recruited Paul to look after all his social media. If that was not enough Thomas Bell good luck for one lifetime, it turned out that his boss in the marketing department runs The Naomi Narrative, a sex and dating blog.

They now have their own social media company and were even up against each other at the recent UK Blogger awards.

Paul said his masterstroke was finding a niche that was not already full to bursting point.

And while he is no longer Mr Saturday Night, he is confident that he has enough past glories to continue blogging his way into the future.

He said: "Some of the experiences I have had belong on Jeremy Kyle. Mum used to ask me, 'Why can't you just meet a normal person?'" One of the things that makes Paul stand out among dating bloggers, male and female, is that he doesn't do the online thing.

He added: "I appreciate its convenience but it takes some of the romance away. I used to love being 18, meeting a girl when you're out. You like her, she likes you. That's a buzz and internet


IN DEMAND Paul at Dating Awards with fellow datring writer Claudia Cox, below. Left, on his adventures round the world
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Date:Jun 18, 2016
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