I've forgiven my ex, says jilted bride; second instalment in six-book deal set to be published.
Byline: JOSHUA TAYLOR Social Affairs Writer firstname.lastname@example.org @taylorjoshua1
A MERSEYSIDE bride-to-be who swapped weddings for wanderlust after, her big day was called off, told how she has finally learned to forgive her ex.
As revealed by the ECHO in January, Katy Colins, 31, quit her job and sold her belongings to travel around the world, after being left heartbroken and alone.
She told followers on her popular Not Wed Or Dead blog, which documents her travels around the world, that she had finally come to forgive her ex.
Katy was set for a fairytale PS20,000 wedding, which had nearly all been paid for.
Now she has secured a six-book publishing deal and had interest from film and TV companies since pursuing a life of travel.
Katy wrote: "I always thought that forgiving others was a sign of weakness on your part. That by forgiving their actions, words, or mistakes, it's like you're kind of rolling over and saying 'It's fine for you to treat me like this,' but what I've learnt, the older I've got, is that actually by forgiving others we can forgive ourselves and take that important step to moving forward and living the most kick-ass lives we can.
"I mean, think about it - why would you want to hold onto nasty hateful feelings, stewing over how hard done by you've been? "Why would you want to fill your mind and use your energy with negative thoughts about others that you cannot change? Why would you want to punish yourself because of what others did to you in the past? "I forgive my ex for what he did. I also forgive myself for my own past decisions." Katy, who is currently in Australia, writing the third book in her Lonely Hearts Travel Club series, said she wrote the blog post to help others.
She said: "My head was in a very raw and almost destructive mind-set meaning I partied way too much, I drank to feel numb and I hung out with unsuitable people.
"I made decisions without thinking of how it would affect me in the future.
"I did go to quite a dark place during this time, but I also realised that I was not going to stay there forever.
"The thing with a break-up is there are no rules to how you're going to feel or act, and, yes, even though I have been portrayed as this strong, fearless 'Backpacking Bridget Jones',' I admit that at times that character couldn't have been further from the truth.
"I'm telling you this because I want you to realise that, if you're currently going through a breakup, a separation or a divorce then you will have these moments.
"And this is OK. You need to reach the bottom in order to come back up."
| | Destination India, by Katy Colins, inspired by her travels, is out on June 2.
Katy Colins, 31
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|Publication:||Liverpool Echo (Liverpool, England)|
|Date:||May 24, 2016|
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