How can I get over my shyness?
I am a self-employed electrician and at work I have no problem with shyness but if I go to a wedding or have a night out, I find myself feeling very nervous.
I don't drink much alcohol either and when I am out, I feel out of place. This has affected my social life for the past few years. But during the day, if you lined up 10 people and had to pick the shy one, you would never pick me. I recently asked out a stunning girl, who likes me for my "daytime personality" but I think she will hate me on a night out. What shall I do? I would love to fix this.
WHY are you trying to change your personality on a night out? You don't have to behave any differently than you do at work.
Go out with exactly the same attitude that you get up with in the morning to go to work. It sounds as if you hide behind your work but you don't need to.
I think you're just panicking that you have to be someone you're not.
But if your job gives you confidence, then why not start the conversation talking about that? You can move on to other topics once you've warmed up a bit. This stunning girl said yes to a night out, so just be yourself. If you just stay true to yourself, I'm sure the sparks will fly.
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|Publication:||Daily Record (Glasgow, Scotland)|
|Date:||Apr 1, 2014|
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