Neal, maybe we can take in a movie. How's An Affair to Remember sound?
SCOTT GODBY Taylor Hill, Ky.
I've got news for you, Neal: It doesn't get any easier in your 30s. Besides, why wait for a Mr. Right that may never come along to start your life? A few years ago, when I was in my late 20s, I complained to one of my friends that I was never going to find a guy who wants a monogamous relationship and kids like I do. She asked, "Why do you need somebody'?" and she was right. Once I established myself in my career, I bought a house and fixed it up. Now I'm in the process of looking for a surrogate, since I can't legally adopt in my state. If a guy comes along who wants to be a part of what I have to offer, then I'll definitely have room for him in my heart--although we might need to buy a bigger house.
AARON ELKINS Dunedin, Fla.
I have to laugh--the "gay curse"? Get over it. Gays in their 20s are clothes-addicted, money-hungry men caught up in their perceived self-importance who wouldn't know a real man if they tripped over one coming home at 5 A.M. in a drug-and-alcohol stupor from a night fornicating with other 20-something gay men. Let's talk about 40-something men living alone and not getting dates because all the men your age are out chasing these twinks who want nothing to do with older men unless they have a fat bank account. The reality? In gay years, 43 is 86, and if you don't have looks and money, you may as well kill yourself. Now that's a curse.
S.A. BURR Kennebunk, Maine
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|Publication:||The Advocate (The national gay & lesbian newsmagazine)|
|Article Type:||Letter to the editor|
|Date:||Sep 12, 2006|
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