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Heartbroken man met, married and buried love of his life in just 18 months; When Primrose Redworth met Tim Isterling on a night out they soon fell head over heels for each other - but cancer cut her life cruelly short.

Byline: Cathy Owen

A devastated widower has told how he met, married and buried the love of his life in less than a year.

Primrose Isterling and Tim Isterling met on a night out in May 2016 and were soon head over heels for one another.

But just three months after meeting Primrose began to feel unwell and suffer acute stomach pains, reportsWales Online.

At first doctors thought it was an issue with her appendix.

But she continued to be in excruciating pain after an operation to have it removed.

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Further investigations revealed the worst: it was cancer, and it had spread.

Doctors gave Primrose, from Tremeirchion, Denbighshire, the news that her Stage 4 colorectral cancer was terminal and she had just two years to live.

Tim describes that moment as like watching a "bombshell explode".

But the first thing the young couple did was make list of all the things they wanted to do to make the most of the time they had left together.

And that included getting married.

Tim said: "It was just a massive shock. By that point the cancer had spread through her lymphatic system, so we all focused on the best chance to give her as long as possible to live."

Describing the moment Primrose was given the diagnosis, he said: "It was like just watching a bombshell explode and everything we knew being torn apart.

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"The first thing Prim and I did was to write a bucket list to make the most of the time she had left.

"Things like to go on holiday and go skiing were on the list.

"She thought about friends and her family and she wanted to do one thing with each of those people. It gave it her structure to her life and a purpose."

Primrose started chemotherapy straight away to try and reduce the effect on the lymph nodes. She was treated on the Teenage Cancer Trust wards at the Queen Elizabeth Hospital in Birmingham.

"Treatment was really hard with ups and downs. She had serious heart problems at one point and she went onto a cardiac unit and that was really scary," said Tim.

"But even in that moment we had some joy and memories of me, her mum and sister sneaking in a McDonalds! That was our Prim, always smiling.

"That's when I asked her mum if I could marry her.

"I knew the whole time we would lose Prim eventually, but I would have married her anyway.

"To give Prim that day and to spoil her was the right thing to do -- to say I am by your side and you are what matters."

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Tim proposed to Primrose at hospital surrounded by both their families. He says it was a special moment for her and one he will never forget.

They married a year after they first met, in May 2017, in Primrose's home village of Tremeirchion.

Tim said Primrose never let her diagnosis get in the way of achieving her bucket list.

"She managed to complete all but two things on the list. She lived in such a positive way. We lived not thinking 'we won't do that because you might die'.

"In a lot of ways I'm glad we did. She touched many lives in her time with us.

"Prim knew that regardless of her illness she wanted to live her life to the full and cram in as many adventures and as much fun as possible."

While Primrose was receiving treatment, she and her family were supported by a CLIC Sargent social worker who provided practical, emotional and financial support.

She died on December 9 2017.

One of the many reasons Tim has signed up to run the London Marathon for the charity later this month to "give back and say thank you".

"Prim was offered financial support and counselling by CLIC Sargent and Rachael put us in touch with other charities that could help too. It would have been a lot harder without CLIC Sargent's support.

"I've always watched the marathon and been a keen runner but I'm a bigger lad so it is a challenge! I just keep looking forward to the finish line and that moment, just thinking about doing it for Prim and going through 26.2 miles of hard work. I can't wait for that moment."

Jade Clarke, Major Runs Project Manager at CLIC Sargent, said: "The challenge Tim is taking on in memory of Primrose is amazing.

"We are so lucky to have the support of Tim and Primrose's family who have fundraised for us. We rely entirely on donations to fund our vital work and so we can't thank Tim enough for his incredible efforts.

"We'll be there on the day cheering him all the way to the finish line!"

To sponsor and support Tim's marathon challenge, visithere.

Tim added: "While her situation was tragic there are many other young people still going through what Prim had to endure.

"She would want to make sure they had the same high standard of facilities and support that she did.

"So with Prim in our hearts, please take some time to donate."

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Primrose Isterling started feeling unwell just three months after meeting and falling in love with Tim

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The couple were devastated by the news that Primrose had Stage 4 colorectral cancer

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Tim helped Primrose write a bucket list

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Primrose died in December 2017
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