EX JUST WON'T LEAVE ME ALONE.
Byline: Dear Coleen email firstname.lastname@example.org
Dear Coleen I HAVE got a new man in my life but my ex will not leave me alone. He cannot bear the fact that I have someone else, even though we split up five years ago and he's had several different partners in this time.
I'm serious about my new partner but my ex just can't cope with it. He sometimes drives past my house and generally makes up any excuse to call me.
I'm trying to figure out what to do. What's your advice? Coleen says TELL him this has got to stop and that if it doesn't you'll report him for harassment.
Be very clear that you're not going to get back together with him, then block his number, unfriend him on social media and don't reply to his messages again.
The trouble is, if you keep replying, even to tell him you're not interested, he'll be encouraged because he's getting a response and he'll keep doing it. By cutting off all communication, hopefully he'll get bored and realise he's not going to get anywhere.
He sounds like the type who's attitude is, "I don't want you, but I don't want anyone else to have you either."
His ego simply can't stand the fact that you've met someone else and are getting on with life.