Dr Miriam: Starved of great sex.
I REALLY love my husband. He's good-looking - women drool over him at parties - he's fun and he loves me. The only problem is, we don't have enough sex.
Our jobs and our children and all the other responsibilities exhaust us both and we're both pretty ratty by the end of the day.
On the rare occasions we do make love, it's unbelievable. We know each other so well it's beyond exciting. But it only happens once in a blue moon.
Why, if it's so good, don't we do it more often?
THAT'S a good question. When sex is spontaneous and carefree, when it's given full-rein and there are no impediments, it's positively glorious.
But, in normal daily life, the setting for spontaneous sex is fraught with obstacles.
In the first flush of a new relationship, we ignore responsibilities and take risks to get the setting right. We don't let anything get in the way of sexual intimacy.
But life, being life, can't be excluded for long. It begins to infiltrate into our time dedicated to intercourse. With the advent of children and babies, exhaustion at the end of the day is just compounded by our disturbed nights.
One of the best ways of tackling family life barren of sex is to talk openly to each other. Just doing that relieves isolation and resentment. Oh, he understands. Good, he feels the same.
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|Publication:||The Mirror (London, England)|
|Date:||Sep 27, 2004|
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