Dear Rachael: I'VE FALLEN OUT OF LOVE WITH LOSER.
Q I STARTED going out with Harry three years ago and he was the man of my dreams. Now I think I've outgrown him. I've worked hard at my career but he is still doing casual work and has no ambition. He won't go out with my new friends and is so set in his ways he seems middle-aged. When I said he was becoming an old fart, he bought some "trendy" clothes which looked ridiculous. I don't know where we go from here.
A I THINK you do - you split up and move on. Your feelings have changed because YOU have changed. Sad as it is, couples do grow apart. But stop blaming Harry and sneering at him in this awful way. He loves you, he's still the person you fell for. He deserves honesty - not scorn.