Dear Miriam: Blackmailed by her cheating lover.
I SLEPT with my best friend's boyfriend one night when we were all out on the town.
She had to go home early because her mum was ill. He had drunk too much. It was stupid of me - the sex wasn't great and I've regretted it ever since.
Now he's hanging around all the time. He says he wants to have sex again. I've told him to get lost but he says that, unless I do what he wants, he'll tell my mate. I don't know what to do. Either way I'll hurt her some more.
THERE'S more than one thing wrong here and I'm glad you're trying to choose the lesser of two evils to spare your girlfriend more pain than necessary.
Unbeknown to her, she's already the victim of a double betrayal: you've betrayed your close friendship and her boyfriend has betrayed her relationship with him.
Don't, I beg of you, add insult to injury by introducing a third component to your betrayal of her by agreeing to her boyfriend's entreaties for more sex.
The fact that he's using your one-night stand as blackmail should be enough to give you the moral fibre to face him out.
Blackmailers should never be allowed to succeed. No one should allow themselves to fall prey to their demands.
He's a low, worthless specimen, so in your position, I'd simply tell him so.
And when he threatens to shop you to his girlfriend, tell him she already knows - because you'll have summoned up enough courage to tell her - and in all probability, she will send him packing too.
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|Publication:||The Mirror (London, England)|
|Date:||Apr 7, 2004|
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