Dear MIRIAM: TARGET OF HIS FURY.
Dear MIRIAM MY boyfriend is going through a difficult divorce and every time he has a fight with his ex, he takes it out on me.
He either withholds sex or is rough and angry when we have it.
He pulls my hair and calls me names like "slut" and "whore" which really upsets me.
When he's finished, I feel used, bruised, abused and unloved. What can I do?
YOU shouldn't put up with the treatment he's dishing out.
When he's in an angry mood, he's using you as a substitute for his wife and you get all the punishment he thinks she deserves.
I'd say he's not a man you should be around, let alone have sex with.
Talk to him about how you feel and, if he hurts you again, you must pull away, put on your clothes and say goodbye.
If you value and respect yourself, you won't listen to his lame excuses any more.