I am almost 14 gears old. Ever since I was a little girl, my dad has given me backrubs, and when he rubs my lower back, he goes pretty close to my butt Last night when he gave me a backrub, I had my pajamas on and no bra and for some reason he was rubbing my stomach and he went REALLY close to my boobs. And I was like why are you rubbing my stomach and he said because he wanted to. I don't know if this was intentional or not, but it was enough to make me feel nervous. My parents are divorced and I am not sure how I am going to tell my morn this because I don't want her getting really mad at my dad.
Tell gout dad that you are too old for backrubs. Say this in a tone that is serious or casual, but say it now because it's not appropriate for him to touch you body like that. You were nervous because your gut was telling you that he was crossing a line. You deserve to feel safe in the homes of both your parents. I hope you talk to your mom, too. If you start by saying. "Mom, this is awkward_..." then it wont feel quite so out of the blue and she'll know to pay attention. But the main things is not to put up with any more too-cozy backrubs.
Carol Weston is the author of the popular advice book Girltalk: All the Stuff your Sister Never Told You and the novel The Diary of Melanie Martin. Visit carolweston.com or become a fan on Face book. You can also write to Carol c/o Girls' Life, 4529 Harford Road, Baltimore, MD 21214. For a reply, include a stamped envelope with your address on It. Carol cant answer every question personally--but she tries!
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|Date:||Jun 1, 2010|
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