BOYFRIEND'S EX IS RUINING MY JOB.
Dear Coleen, I have to work with my boyfriend's ex after she was transferred into my department.
s On her first day, I went up to her desk to welcome her and to say I hoped there would be no hard feelings between us and she totally blanked me.
tws aSfh My boyfriend left her for me five months ago and I know that she was devastated. She has been working in my department for several weeks now but things still haven't improved.
Coleen says.. Well, it's not surprising she doesn't want to be your best friend if you were seeing her DI cdt In fact, I'm sure she's told some of my colleagues what happened because I've definitely felt that they've been colder towards me. I can't face working in this atmosphere. What should I do? aCWb boyfriend behind her back and then he dumped her for you. However, she ought to be professional at work and she shouldn't be trying to turn your colleagues against you, if that is what is really happening.
I think you have to be the one to take the initiative here.
Invite her for a coffee or write to her and explain that you understand why she doesn't like you, but the fact is you have to work together and it will be easier for everyone if you can get along at work - even if it's just being polite in the office.
ththe And you should both also have an agreement not to bitch to colleagues about each other.
K KeeKee lettlett If that doesn't work then the only alternative is to get your manager involved to mediate, but I'm hoping you can resolve it between you.
She might still be feeling hurt and embarrassed, and may just need a bit more time to get used to the situation.