BLAME MATTRESS FOR BAD BED RELATIONSHIPS.
For instance, 50% of women classified their husbands as "a mattress hog" (always on their side of the bed), "the Tazmanian Devil" (constantly tossing and turning), or "Sleepless in Seattle" (unable to fall or stay asleep). Forty-one percent of women were deemed less-than-perfect sleepers by their husbands.
Overall, 37% of both men and women said that their spouse is more comfortable sleeping in their bed than they are. Herman points out that it is quite possible that one member of the couple is more comfortable in bed than the other, mostly because they simply did not shop for their mattress together. "No matter how much you have in common, comfort is a very personal perception. You both deserve the best night's sleep possible, but if you didn't pick the mattress out together, there's a good chance only one of you will be comfortable in bed."
She also attributes the comfort gap to when a man or woman brings a mattress to the relationship, which, Herman argues, is not a good idea. "Oftentimes, when couples get together, they sleep on either his or her old mattress. As a result, one of them is happy with a mattress they're used to, and the other person probably is not sleeping as comfortably as they should be."
Couples need to communicate about sleep, much like they would about any other relationship issue. "Obviously, there is a communication gap which is leading to bad `bed' relationships," Herman says. "Couples should open up a sleep dialogue. Ask your spouse, `Honey, are we sleeping as well as we should?'"
Once you identify the problem, you can find a solution. The survey also revealed that millions of master bedroom mattresses were described as too hard, too soft, worn out, or sagging. "While you may not be able to change your partner's sleeping patterns, you can take steps to help you both sleep better. Your mattress plays a key role in how well you sleep and should provide ideal comfort and support for both of you," Herman stresses. For instance, moving to a larger mattress would help solve the problem for those sleeping with someone who hogs the mattress or someone who tosses and turns all night. Finding a more comfortable and supportive mattress may help someone who has a difficult time falling asleep.