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Afte er losing 10 babies I finnally have my own little rainbow child; Lee endured nine miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy before having son.

Byline: Samantha Booth

EVERY time mum Lee Carberry looks at her baby son, she feels incredibly blessed.

Six-month-old Morgan is the child she was beginning to think she would never have after bearing the heartache of nine miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy.

She's now overwhelmed with happiness but says she will never forget the 10 babies she lost.

Lee, 40, from Cambuslang, near Glasgow, said: "Morgan is a joy and a blessing and I am so delighted to have him. But just because I now have a baby doesn't mean the pain and the grief of losing my other babies goes away.

"I still cry for them every single day. Yet I know that without having had the journey I have had, I wouldn't have Morgan now and for many women there is no happy ending."

day are pregnant, of future.

day, gone " Lee married Mark, 34, six years ago and started trying for a family after about 18 months. Falling pregnant was never a problem but Lee would miscarry after just a few weeks. At one stage, she had four miscarriages in a six-month spell.

She said: "I had some very, very dark days. One day, you are pregnant and are thinking about the future. The next day, it is all gone.

"The more it happens, the harder it becomes. You grieve for each baby individually and start to become obsessed by it all. The need to have a baby almost takes over everything.

"There are so many emotions involved from the feelings around trying to get pregnant, then the becoming pregnant and then thgrieving of a miscarriage. e joy at he "It can be exhausting knowinneed to go through it all again but the thought that it might bto stop trying and end the miseisn't easy to bear either." ng you as well e best ery " After four miscarriages, Lee to see her doctor. She said: "I hmiscarried at six weeks and wadevastated.You can be unlucky enough to have one or two misriages but after four, I thought must definitely be a problem." went had just as y scarthere tter " After tests, Lee received a lefrom her hospital saying they couldn't explain her miscarriagShe said: "I found it so hard tunderstand. Meanwhile, I was ges. to going to very dark places and experiencing so much pain. And every time I fell pregnant, I tried not to get attached in case I miscarried again. But I always did and there was always that hope that this might be the one."

Lee went on to have another four miscarriages. Her ninth pregnancy looked hopeful as she was still carrying beyond the point when she normally miscarried and when she went for a scan, a nurse initially thought Lee might be carrying twins.

Unfortunately, it turned out the pregnancy was ectopic.

Lee said: "We went from thinking we might be having twins to lying in a room being told I would need to lose my baby and a fallopian tube."

It did though give Lee a little hope as she had been able to carry a baby for eight weeks, longer than she had previously. At least now she suspected she might have something to work with to find a solution.

After endless research, she went to see Dr Hassan Shehata at London's Recurrent Miscarriage Clinic.

The doctor prescribed the steroid Protocol, used to treat elevated NK (natural killer) cells, which cause the body to fight against a pregnancy.

Despite one more miscarriage before falling pregnant with Morgan and never having been diagnosed with high NK cells, Lee firmly believes that the steroid treatment, along with the care she received at Wishaw General in Lanarkshire, played a huge part in her finally being able to carry a baby to term.

Not that it was all plain sailing.

After conceiving easily before, it took 18 months for Lee to fall pregnant with Morgan. Then after the joy and relief of pregnancy came the fear that she might lose this baby as well.

Lee said: "The first emotion was utter elation. But then I became a bit panic-stricken at the thought I might lose him and this might be my last chance, especially as I was bleeding at six weeks and again a bit later on.

"As the pregnancy went on though, I found myself relaxing a bit more."

Even labour wasn't straightforward for Lee. Doctors decided to induce earlier than planned but even then Morgan hung on for four days until being delivered.

Lee finally experienced the joy of holding her baby in her arms, a bittersweet experience after all the heartache she had suffered, only to collapse just two hours later.

She said: "I got up to go to the toilet and passed out. The next thing I knew I came to in a machine, which was blasting my body with warm air while my head stuck out the top.

"I had suffered hypovolemic shock.

Mum said she thought I had died."

Eventually, Lee and Morgan were able to leave hospital and start their new life together.

Lee said: "Among people who have experienced recurrent miscarriages, the term for children who are finally born is rainbow children.

"Incredibly on the way to hospital to have Morgan, I saw a rainbow. He really is my little rainbow boy."

RECURRENT MISCARRIAGES ARE DEVASTATING, SO MORE REESEARCH IS NEEDED ONE in four pregnancies ends in miscarriage and as many as one in every 100 couples experiences recurrent miscarriages - in the UK, that's three or more.

Ruth Bender Atik, national director of the Miscarriage Association, said: "The feelings of grief experienced when they miscarry undoubtedly deepen when they experience recurrent miscarriages.

"One or two miscarriages can be heartbreaking but it might just be unlucky. Three or more in a row can be devastating and mean, in the UK at this time, it is time for things to be looked at. There are several medical problems that can be tested for and treated but unfortunately there are some women for whom recurrent miscarriage can be unexplained and that can be really difficult.

"Everybody reacts differently, of course, but each loss is harder to bear than the last." Research is progressing all the time and includes a closer look at steroids.

Ruth said: "There have been some tests into the usefulness of steroids. One controlled clinical study gave one group of 20 women steroids and another a placebo. The results showed that of those who took the steroids, 12 had healthy pregnancies while eight miscarried. In the group of women taking placebos, eight carried a baby to full term, while 12 had miscarriages. So the results are interesting but there needs to be more research."

For more info, go to www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk

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NOT LONG TO GO Lee near the end of her term

SCAN Ultrasound im mage of Lee's unborn child

FAMILY Lee, Mark and Morgan at home

CUTE Little Morgan who is now six months old
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