A teen in the house..!
Well it is official ... I am now a parent of a teenager!
And although I have lived through 3am feedings, the terrible twos, toddler tantrums and more, the word 'teenager' conjures up a more terrifying image to me!
Is it because it is a period of intense growth, where not only emotionally but physically changes occur, or perhaps it reminds me of my rebellious teenage years, or lack of, or maybe it is of the constant 'wait till she is a teenager!' line!
All I know is that having a teen in the house now seems to put a whole new spin on life for me and more so for her dad!
My husband's worries though are perhaps somewhat different to mine.
I mean I myself did some odd things as a teenager and when I look back at how and why things happened in our house and how my brother and I tried to explain them, it is a wonder my parents even tried to figure us out!
Today, though, as an adult I have come to realise that there are always logical reasons behind our actions, children, on the other hand almost never have logical reasons for anything ... well they are logical to them, but not to the adult.
For instance attempting a conversation with a pre-teen and now a teenage daughter can at times be like pulling teeth. You twist and pull and prod, with nothing to show for it except for a few mumbled words and growing feeling of frustration.
Then there are other times, when you least expect it, a surplus of thoughts, feelings and words just spill out, without even having to prod or pull!
But what I remember most and what I now know as a mum is that as teens we ultimately strived for independence.
We were constantly pulling away from our parents, especially whom we were closest to, which at times felt like we were always at odds with. At the same time we didn't want to be loved any less.
Yes growing up is complicated but I am finding out that being a parent is also.
I must admit there are some negative perceptions about teens, but when I look back at my growing up years and even at my children today I see energetic, thoughtful and idealistic individuals with a deep interest in what's fair and right.
All I can do as a parent is simply show them my utmost faith in them and the respect I hold for their aspirations.
And just like my own parents did, be in it for the long haul ... in it for the good and the bad, for the laughing until we cry and crying until we laugh, for dancing silly to pop music or simply sitting quietly side by side doing absolutely nothing!
I'm in for the constant reminder that I am too old for that, or too past it for this!
And for the recognition that while we may be so alike in some ways, in many more we are different ... and what a great realisation that is in itself!
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