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'APRIL IS STILL A TIME OF AGONY' Devastated family on car crash torment.


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September 2013 frequent travel to South 8th May 2012 (late Despite trying to stay strong for her other son, Jason, who was 15 at the time, Heather admits she struggles to move on with life as memories of Gareth are triggered every day - by seeing a policeman, a boy kicking a football or a mother pushing a pram. Swyddog Cynhwysiant partneriaid a rhanddeiliaid i digartrefedd drwy Gynhwysiant Contract: Llawn amser, cyfnod 2013 Cyflog: pounds 27,624-pounds 32,840 Lleoliad: Caerdydd ond teithio chanolbarth Cymru Dyddiad cau: 1.00yp ar ddydd 2012 (bydd ceisiadau hwyr Dyddiad cyfweliad: 16eg o Mae hwn yn ail hysbyseb, ymgeiswyr ail geisio. Am becyn cais, yn cynnwys disgrifiad swydd a manyleb gwefan http://www.walescooperative.neu ffoniwch 029 previous applicants need And the 49-year-old says that even without looking at a calendar she knows it's around the time of his death six years ago simply by looking at the colours of the flowers and the trees.

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"As a result, when he was old enough to drive I gave him an Audi A4. It cost more in insurance but money didn't come into it. I just wanted him to be safe and have more chance than Gareth."

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"I didn't want him to think that when he lost his brother he also lost his mum," she said.

But six years on she says not a day goes by when something doesn't trigger a memory of her late beloved son.

"I try and get on with my life but if I see highway maintenance on the dual carriageway, a minibus, or a woman pushing a pram, I'm reminded of Gareth," she said. "After the accident I was in a blur, but I remember things like the colours of the trees and the daffodils and now when I see those same sights I know it's that time of year again.

"Something hits me and I have no control over it."

And it's not just Heather who's been deeply affected by Gareth's death.

She said: "Jason grew up thinking that losing a child was normal.

"We went for a walk on the anniversary and he said to me, 'Mum, I'm going to have three children. I don't mind the sexes, I just want three.' "I asked him why, and his reply was, 'I don't want two in case I lose one like you lost Gareth.' "Other family members and friends find it hard to get close to me around the time of the anniversary - they just don't know what to say.

"They can't comprehend how I cope, but I get by in my own way, be it having a cry in the bedroom or going for a walk with the dog.

"It's been a long and emotional six years, and the grief and hurt is there every day, but the pain is gradually getting less than it was.

"At the time it was unbearable but I've become stronger and have learned how to blank it out on the days I just can't face it."

Heather and Jason created a DVD in Gareth's memory, which is now used in schools and colleges to educate youngsters about road safety.

"It features two songs: Bring Him Home, because we waited nearly three weeks for him to be brought home to us, and You Raise Me Up because I brought the boys up on my own," she said.

"It's the story of us losing him and day-to-day life without him, from getting up and brushing our teeth to the empty space at the dinner table."

And speaking about what advice she'd give to young drivers, she added: "Think, take care and be careful.

"Spare a thought for your family and what you'd be leaving behind, as it's them who will have to live with the consequences every day." * For help, advice and support on road crashes, contact Brake on 0845 603 8570 or visit


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