You Are a Lighthouse.

It's strange how aging changes a person. I used to swear that I would never collect "things." You know, plates, figurines, dolls, and so on. Well ... a few years ago, I visited Cape Cod and fell in love with a lighthouse figurine. I purchased it, and put it on my mantle. Slowly but surely, it has been joined by other lighthouses, and well, yes, as much as I hate to admit it, I now have a collection of lighthouses.

I like them because looking at them can take me instantly away in thought to a splashing ocean scene. Moreover, I like them for what they symbolize. To me lighthouses portray hope, guidance, safety, and stability. I like to think of childbirth educators as a shining light in our foggy, dimly lit, technocratic birth culture. Strong and sure of their convictions, they confidently point the way for childbearing families to safety and satisfaction in the birth process. Because they have seen the light, they become the lightbearers, and freely share to all who pass their way.

Think of the characteristics of lighthouses. They have a tendency to be isolated; they may even be considered lonely. We, as childbirth educators, can feel that way at times, and find cheer and support in collaborating with others who share our passion. Imparting the philosophy that birth is not a medical crisis waiting to happen can make us feel at times as if we are flowing against our culture's current. We must recognize our need to strengthen one another. Are you feeling like an isolated lightbearer?

Another characteristic of lighthouses is that instead of leading seekers to themselves, they illuminate the waters, so that others can find their own way. And so do childbirth educators. They are not self-serving. They don't call attention to themselves. They live to empower women and their families, not only in the birth process, but also in their lives.

Lighthouses are also strong and sturdy, not wavering when the waves of a storm come pounding against them. They keep burning their light, regardless of the storm (actually by reason of the storm). In the same way, lightbearers do not run from adversity. They believe in their purpose and continue to shine when others disagree with or ridicule them. The waves of a storm may weather the structure, but they don't destroy it. Are you a weathered lightbearer?

While some lighthouses are built to warn mariners of dangerous points, others serve the purpose of marking the entry of a river or harbor. We, as childbirth educators, find ourselves fulfilling both roles. We are often the one that women and their partners look to first concerning safe birth information. What an honor to hold such a place of influence!

Just in the short time that I have been with ALACE, I have had the pleasure of connecting with some of the wonderful lightbearers who represent this organization. It's very clear to me that you are shining brightly in your communities! Don't take that reality lightly! If you are feeling "weathered" or "isolated," take some time in the next few weeks to reach out to others serving in birth (it may be a good time to meet your state or regional coordinator). The world needs you to keep shining!

Author's note: You may have encountered a childbirth educator in your experiences that didn't necessarily steer you the right way. Read this article again with the image of those you know to be wonderful guides, or of what you strive to be.