Those internal hurdles.They can trip you up the most
The road to achievement is often long and full of twists and turns. And it goes without saying that external circumstances can sometimes get in the way. But often, our greatest challenges stem from a place much closer to home. Just ask Howard Blake.
After being contracted to provide technical support for a Microsoft division in Wilmington, Delaware Wilmington is the largest city in the state of Delaware and is located at the confluence of the Christina River and Brandywine Creek, near where the Christina flows into the Delaware River. , in 1993, Blake decided to get additional training. "I wanted the skills that would push my career forward," he says. But there was a significant roadblock in his path: he doubted his test-taking abilities. Although he studied hard, his lack of confidence led him to fail the certifying exam three times.
"Of the many hindrances we encounter in life, most are self-imposed," says Pam Andrews, executive director of FamQuest Inc., a life skills and personal productivity training firm in Bear, Delaware Bear is an unincorporated, suburban community and census-designated place in New Castle County, Delaware, United States. The population was 17,593 at the 2000 census. . "Negative behavior and thought processes This is a list of thinking styles, methods of thinking (thinking skills), and types of thought. See also the List of thinking-related topic lists, the List of philosophies and the . , such as pessimism pessimism, philosophical opinion or doctrine that evil predominates over good; the opposite of optimism. Systematic forms of pessimism may be found in philosophy and religion. , can doom us to failure before we even get started."
Unwilling to give up, Blake sought guidance from Andrews and her husband, Darrell, co-owner of FamQuest. He learned how to visualize a positive outcome and erase his hesitancy hes·i·tan·cy
An involuntary delay or inability in starting the urinary stream. . In 1996, three years after his initial attempt, Blake passed the exam and earned his certification in system engineering.
He's now an information center analyst, and is preparing to start his own computer business. "There will always be obstacles, but now I don't create them."
Here are three tips from Andrews to help you clear internal hurdles and get to your personal finish line:
* Acknowledge that they do exist. "You can't get around obstacles if you don't see them," asserts Andrews. Face the music and identify your problems; then do something about them.
* Get mentally focused. Develop a tunnel vision tunnel vision
Vision in which the visual field is severely constricted.
n a defect in sight in which a great reduction occurs in the peripheral field of vision, as if one is looking through that can't be penetrated by negativity. "You'll be surprised what you can accomplish when there's nothing blocking your sight," she says.
* Take action. "It's the only way to actually get over any hurdle HURDLE, Eng. law. A species of sledge, used to draw traitors to execution. ," maintains Andrews. You know what you want to accomplish. Now you can get out and make it happen.