The Ex Files.She's supposed to be old news. So why is your guy asking for daily updates? Dave: He's not trying to confuse you. More likely he's confused. Bill: Is there some underground Cult of Confusion out there, with members strategically placed in schools around the country, gaining power through mental gymnastics gymnastics, exercises for the balanced development of the body (see also aerobics), or the competitive sport derived from these exercises. Although the ancient Greeks (who invented the building called a gymnasium ? My so-called BF swears he doesn't like his ex-girlfriend (who is in my class) anymore. But he always asks me about her. Does he still like her, or is he just trying to confuse me? DAVE: Here's an experiment that demonstrates how guys behave: Borrow a puppy. Have two friends sit at opposite sides of the room, each loaded with various types of toys and tasty meat products. Puppy enters room. Puppy goes to see Friend A. Puppy likes Friend A a great deal. "Wait! What's that smell over there? Steak?!" So he checks out Friend B's beef jerky Noun 1. beef jerky - strips of dried beef jerked meat, jerky, jerk - meat (especially beef) cut in strips and dried in the sun for a bit before returning--cute, irresistible puppy face A Puppy face or a Puppy dog face is a facial expression that humans make that is based on canine expressions. In dogs and other animals, the look is expressed when the head is tilted down and the eyes are looking up. Usually the animal looks like it is about to cry. intact--to the other side of the room. Your guy is probably just sorting things out. Eventually, he'll decide who has his favorite treats and stay on one side of the room. Until then, just whack whack - According to arch-hacker James Gosling, to "...modify a program with no idea whatsoever how it works." (See whacker.) It is actually possible to do this in nontrivial circumstances if the change is small and well-defined and you are very good at glarking things from context. him on the nose with a rolled-up newspaper. BILL: I'm not so sure someone would set out to confuse his girlfriend. Is there some underground Cult of Confusion out there? Uh...probably not. Maybe he's just a nice guy who still feels a few pangs "Pangs" is the eighth episode of season 4 of the television show Buffy the Vampire Slayer. Plot synopsis Summary Angel secretly arrives in Sunnydale to protect Buffy, who is attempting a perfect Thanksgiving. of friendship for someone he felt close to. He might have a little guilt or regret mixed in there, too. Still, keep an eye on him. The Cult of Confusion can strike when you least expect it. This guy and I exchanged numbers. So what's next? Do we set up a date? Who sets it up? DAVE: Traditionalists say the guy should take the initiative. With me, there's no place for tradition when it comes to dating. It leads to a bunch of poor, confused souls sitting around trying to figure out what they're supposed to do, rather than what they want to do. Since every situation is different, there's no proper next step. If you want to go out with him and feel comfortable making the first call, go ahead. He must want to go out with you since he gave you his number. Note: If you call and the greeting is, "Domino's. May I take your order?" you have a problem. BILL: Hey, this isn't The Rules for Dating, you know. Dave and I could set up the date, but then you'd have to buy us dinner--and you don't wanna wan·na Informal 1. Contraction of want to: You wanna go now? 2. Contraction of want a: You wanna slice of pie? do that. Unless you're both in the business of updating the phone book, then I'd say you probably exchanged numbers because you want to see each other socially. If the guy is formal and into dating etiquette, then he should probably call. If he's a low-key guy who likes and respects you, he'd probably love you to call him. Ask yourself, "If there were no societal expectations, what would I feel natural doing?" Then do it! I'll be talking to Noun 1. talking to - a lengthy rebuke; "a good lecture was my father's idea of discipline"; "the teacher gave him a talking to" lecture, speech rebuke, reprehension, reprimand, reproof, reproval - an act or expression of criticism and censure; "he had to one of my guy friends about his GF. and he'll tell me how much he likes her, how cool she is, blah blah blah. The next week, he tells me he's lost interest and is breaking up with her. And nothing has happened--she's the same girl! How can guys like a girl one week and not like her the next for no reason? DAVE: Who says we have to have a reason? Guys can be hot and cold when it comes to relationships. Sometimes, we like the security of knowing we always have someone to hang with. But being with the same person can do a couple of things to the male psyche. First off, it can be boring. Same girl, same stuff, same BSB BSB Backstreet Boys BSB Bayerische Staatsbibliothek BSB British Superbikes (motorcycle racing series) BSB Bachelor of Science in Business BSB Bandar Seri Begawan (capital of Brunei) posters on her wall. Second, steady companionship can be scary--an intimidating in·tim·i·date tr.v. in·tim·i·dat·ed, in·tim·i·dat·ing, in·tim·i·dates 1. To make timid; fill with fear. 2. To coerce or inhibit by or as if by threats. jump from being with your core group of guys to kickin' it with the same girl all the time. We need a break here and there. Normally, a few days with the guys has us longing for our gal. And the cycle starts all over again....Arrrgh, if I have to see that Nick Carter Nick Carter may refer to:
BILL: I'll tell you why guys are so fickle fick·le adj. Characterized by erratic changeableness or instability, especially with regard to affections or attachments; capricious. [Middle English fikel, from Old English ficol, at times, if you'll tell me why so many cool girls go ga-ga over creeps. The point is that logic takes a vacation in matters of the heart. When logic comes back, the heart usually hits the road. The enduring dilemma of love! |
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