Ten Tips for Coping with Grief and Loss During the Holidays.Provided by San Diego San Diego (săn dēā`gō), city (1990 pop. 1,110,549), seat of San Diego co., S Calif., on San Diego Bay; inc. 1850. San Diego includes the unincorporated communities of La Jolla and Spring Valley. Coronado is across the bay. Hospice hospice, program of humane and supportive care for the terminally ill and their families; the term also applies to a professional facility that provides care to dying patients who can no longer be cared for at home. and Palliative Care palliative care (paˑ·lē·ā·tiv kerˑ),
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SAN DIEGO -- San Diego Hospice and Palliative Care:
San Diego Hospice and Palliative Care offers the following tips for coping with grief and loss during the upcoming holiday season:
1. Take care of yourself
You are of little value to your family and friends if you are not well rested and taking care of yourself first and foremost.
2. Find a way to acknowledge the person you have lost
Rather than avoiding the feelings, find a way to remember and acknowledge the person that is meaningful and positive.
3. Incorporate memories or stories about the person into your family traditions
Remember your friend or family member's role in holiday traditions and share those memories.
4. Find new traditions that honor As a verb, to accept a bill of exchange, or to pay a note, check, or accepted bill, at maturity. To pay or to accept and pay, or, where a credit so engages, to purchase or discount a draft complying with the terms of the draft. those who are no longer here
Consider incorporating a new tradition such as a special decoration or moment of reflection in memory of the person who has died.
5. Plan ahead
Think ahead about what events will be especially emotional for you this holiday season and evaluate what will best ease that pain whether it be surrounding sur·round
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1. To extend on all sides of simultaneously; encircle.
2. To enclose or confine on all sides so as to bar escape or outside communication.
n. yourself with family or excusing yourself for a private moment.
6. Take one day at a time One Day at a Time is a long-running American situation comedy that portrayed a divorced mother, played by Bonnie Franklin, her two teenage daughters (Mackenzie Phillips and Valerie Bertinelli) and their building superintendent (Pat Harrington, Jr.).
Focus on today and the experience at hand.
7. Don't be afraid to make changes
Sometimes old traditions or routines can be too painful without important people present. Try something new this holiday season. Consider going somewhere different or changing your traditional holiday menu.
8. Do what you can
Do only what is special and meaningful to you this year. Be brave enough to say no, and be realistic enough to cancel plans when you change your mind.
9. Ask for help
Ask for and accept offers of concrete assistance with holiday chores like decorating, shopping, cooking or cleaning. Look for ways to involve other people in your holiday planning.
10. Speak to someone outside the family
Call on resources in your area. Organizations like the Center for Grief Care and Education at San Diego Hospice are ready to be of assistance by calling (619) 278-6480.
November is "National Hospice and Palliative Care Month" and is also the beginning of the hectic hec·tic
1. Characterized by intense activity, confusion, or haste: "There was nothing feverish or hectic about his vigor" Erik Erikson.
2. and sometimes trying holiday season.
Noreen Carrington, MA, LMFT LMFT Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist , FT, Director of the Center for Grief Care and Education at San Diego Hospice is available for interviews to further discuss coping with grief during the holidays.
Please contact: Karen Sparks, 858-455-5500 X275 or Karen@mentus.com to schedule an interview.
About San Diego Hospice and Palliative Care
The not-for-profit healthcare organization employs more than 700 experienced staff and faculty, supported by more than 600 trained volunteers, and brings compassionate com·pas·sion·ate
1. Feeling or showing compassion; sympathetic. See Synonyms at humane.
2. Granted to an individual because of an emergency or other unusual circumstances: , expert medical care to nearly 1,000 seriously ill A patient is seriously ill when his or her illness is of such severity that there is cause for immediate concern but there is no imminent danger to life. See also very seriously ill. adults and children each day throughout San Diego County. San Diego Hospice & Palliative Care assists more than 10,000 individuals, experiencing grief and loss, with support, counseling and guidance each year. In addition to patient care services, San Diego Hospice & Palliative Care is the only academic hospice program in the region, providing advanced education to more than 1,200 physicians and healthcare professionals annually and conducting clinical research trials to promote better patient and family care. The organization's mission focuses on improving quality of life at every stage of life -- not just for the patients and families served by the organization, but for the staff and volunteers that drive the organization's mission.