Spiritual Pitbul on Relationship Change
Letting go the old relationship so you can turn up for a new one? Undecided whether to stay or go? Can''t let go of something that happened in the past, lost trust for your partner? Single and just don''t know where to start?Letting go the old relationship so you can turn up for a new one? Yes, this is really important. Sometimes we hold onto anger or attraction for an old relationship and that sabotages the quality of the new one. If you are holding anything but gratitude for your past, it''s running you. Consider these little ideas from the universe of nature. 1/ Nobody can do you more harm than good or more good than harm. 2/ Nobody does to you on the outside more than you are doing to yourself on the inside.
3/ There are no victims. We cause our own reality. So actually what they did is what you wanted them to do at some level.
4/ Nature destroys anything that is not fulfilling it''s purpose. Including friendships.
5/ What you judge you breed in your children, attract in a partner or become.
Undecided whether to stay or go?
Spiritual pitbull thinks "don''t leave em till you love em." We have a habit of thinking that if we blame some situation and move away from it, we''ll be better. If you meet someone who tells you they left the last relationship because of the behaviour of their last partner, run for your life. They are so full of shit. Lying to themselves, and now you. And guess what? "You''re next"
Blame is a poison and one that infects so many people. You must consider whether you are blaming your partner for your inherent misery. Thinking you can escape by dumping this one for that one, is going to prove a fruitless chase.
Learn the difference between love and relationship. You can love someone and still leave. If you love someone you are really aware that there is nothing about them that you don''t have in you, and there''s nothing about you that isn''t divine. So, lets say it again. You are a divine being. Everything you see is just a reflection of you. Therefore, everything you see and every one you meet, is worthy of love.
If you can separate love from relationship, there''s no need to have a relationship with all people you love, and there''s no need to love all people you have a relationship with. Love however, is a requisite for moving out of a relationship you are in. Because love frees you. Once you love someone you can choose whether you want a relationship or not, this is far better than running away and therefore into your problems.
Can''t let go of something that happened in the past, lost trust for your partner?
The spiritual Pitbull says "trust is more important, and more valuable in a relationship than love. To be trusted, or to give trust to another person, is so private, so precious a gift, one must treasure this more than anything, because once lost, all becomes mechanical, irrelevant and ambivalent. Trust.
Trust is a silk thread between lovers. So easily broken it must be protected. Once broken trust is hard to repair, but totally possible.
Firstly, if someone broke your trust, stop blaming them. No one can break your trust more than you do to yourself. Were you lying to yourself? Did you really want to be somewhere else? Did you feel committed but not wanting to stay? The real solution to healing broken trust is to stop blaming them and accept that you have the power to cause people to break your trust.
Otherwise if you think someone broke your trust you''ll never ever trust them again ? and for that matter, you''ll not trust others too. Loose trust for one, loose trust for all.
Single and just don''t know where to start?
We were all single once. This is the message from Spiritual Pitbull. We were all single once and even when we''re in a relationship we are single allot. So, let''s shoot the myth that having a relationship is going to solve all your problems.
Next, Spiritual pitbull would like to remind you that nothing is ever missing. So, you are not single really. You have everything you need all around you. The change will be in centralizing it all into one person, rather than a bunch.
The next thing is about desperation. When we really, really, really want someone, our intuition becomes fogged so we make some really big mistakes. Desperation causes us to infatuate people, and infatuation blinds us. So, be cool, make sure you''re happy, and content being single, don''t get desperate.
http://www.chriswalker.com.au Chris Walker is a world leading change agent, an environmentalist and author of more than 20 books. Born and bred in Australia, he consults to people and organisations throughout the world on improved relationships, health and lifestyle through the application of the Universal laws of Nature. The result he offers is that we stay balanced, share loving relationships, work with passion, enjoy success, and live our personal truth. To learn more about Chris''s work and journeys to Nepal, visit http://www.chriswalker.com.au -- http://www.chriswalker.com.au