Sex and intimacy in the nursing home: among many issues, resident privacy is key. (Cover Feature).Have you ever considered adding issues of Playboy and Playgirl play·girl
A woman devoted to the pursuit of pleasurable activities. to your residents' library? How about asking your cable TV provider to offer residents "adult viewing" channels? (A recent newspaper article discusses a nursing home in Denmark that provides pornographic programming on an in-house channel "to ease resident tension.") Have you even thoroughly discussed resident sexuality with staff?
Admittedly, senior sexuality is an uncomfortable subject for many. Our society equates sex with youth, so we don't expect seniors to be sexually active--or even to have sexual desires. But today's seniors--whose procreative pro·cre·a·tive
1. Capable of reproducing; generative.
2. Of or directed to procreation. drive fueled the baby boom--live in the same sexually saturated culture as the rest of us. And the need to be touched and held, and to feel loved, does not diminish with age.
"We never lose the joy of touch," notes Mark Steege, LMSW-ACP LMSW-ACP Licensed Master Social Worker - Advanced Clinical Practitioner . Steege is certified by the American Association American Association refers to one of the following professional baseball leagues:
tr.v. at·tuned, at·tun·ing, at·tunes
1. To bring into a harmonious or responsive relationship: an industry that is not attuned to market demands.
2. to seniors' sexual needs because he's 70 years old.
So the first step is to make staff comfortable with talking about seniors' sexuality. Having served as a military chaplain for 20 years, Steege appeals to the religious convictions of his audiences' more conservative members by observing that God made humans as sexual beings.
Humor humor, according to ancient theory, any of four bodily fluids that determined man's health and temperament. Hippocrates postulated that an imbalance among the humors (blood, phlegm, black bile, and yellow bile) resulted in pain and disease, and that good health was helps break the ice, too, as does clearing up staff misconceptions. For example, Steege relates a story about a male resident who has an erection while being bathed by a female caregiver. The resident is not necessarily thinking about being sexual with her; rather, his genitals gen·i·tals
Genitalia. simply could be having a normal physiologic reaction to being touched. Similarly, one cannot assume that two male residents who frequently hold one another are in a homosexual relationship; the men could simply be reaching out and touching each other in a loving way, in contrast to the poking, pulling, and prodding that are part of many nursing home residents' daily routines. (For a detailed perspective of residents who identify as gay or lesbian, see Nursing Homes, August 2001, p. 40.)
When staff can come to appreciate the need for seniors to be sexual and be touched, several issues then need to be addressed--one of the biggest being residents' right to privacy.
Minding Their Own Business
With shared rooms, busy corridors, and frequent visitors being commonplace in many nursing homes, couples can encounter difficulty when trying to find a time and place to be intimate Verb 1. be intimate - have sexual intercourse with; "This student sleeps with everyone in her dorm"; "Adam knew Eve"; "Were you ever intimate with this man?" . At the Hebrew Home for the Aged at Riverdale in Riverdale, New York New York, state, United States
New York, Middle Atlantic state of the United States. It is bordered by Vermont, Massachusetts, Connecticut, and the Atlantic Ocean (E), New Jersey and Pennsylvania (S), Lakes Erie and Ontario and the Canadian province of , staff try to address this issue by giving one of the residents in a relationship a private room, but when that isn't possible, private time in the residents' room is arranged for each roommate. "You literally have to workout a schedule," notes Robin Dessel, supervisor in social services social services
welfare services provided by local authorities or a state agency for people with particular social needs
social services npl → servicios mpl sociales at the Hebrew Home, whose program on senior sexuality was detailed last June in The New York Times.
Roommates generally agree to give each other time alone in their room, but when one roommate is involved in a relationship, sometimes even residents themselves are uncomfortable with seniors' expressing their sexuality: "There are [residents] who take exception, not necessarily because they feel that their private space is being violated, but because they don't necessarily agree with the fact that someone of age and infirmity Flaw, defect, or weakness.
In a legal sense, the term infirmity is used to mean any imperfection that renders a particular transaction void or incomplete. For example, if a deed drawn up to transfer ownership of land contains an erroneous description of it, an is involved in a relationship," explains Dessel. Even if a resident isn't in a relationship, says Dessel, he/she might desire private time to view sexually explicit material Sexually explicit material (video, photography, creative writing) presents sexual content without deliberately obscuring or censoring it. The term sexually explicit media is often used as euphemism for pornography. .
The issue of resident relationships, however, is a more complicated issue than residents' masturbating in their rooms during their own private time. Interacting with residents throughout the day, staff inevitably will learn about these relationships, but Dessel notes, "It's not important that they know the intimate details." At the Hebrew Home, the level of staff involvement depends on the residents' level of cognitive awareness. When the residents in the relationship are alert and oriented, staff involvement is minimal, unless the relationship is imposing itself on the broader resident community. When one or both of the residents have cognitive impairments, staff involvement increases: "They are basically making a clinical assessment about consent, mutuality, and the safety and wellbeing of the couple," says Dessel. "They don't necessarily have to know if there is actual intercourse."
If staff happen to encounter residents in a sexual situation in an appropriate setting (e.g., one of their rooms), and the residents are known to be in a relationship, Hebrew Home caregivers are expected to excuse themselves but check back later to make sure everything is okay. If the couple is not known to be in a relationship, a quick assessment to ensure that no one is there against his/her will is important, as is letting the charge nurse or social worker know about the situation so that other staff members can be alerted, and then checking on the residents later.
While staff are informed when residents are in a relationship, families are not necessarily notified. When mentally competent residents are involved, it's up to the residents themselves to tell their loved ones loved ones npl → seres mpl queridos
loved ones npl → proches mpl et amis chers
loved ones love npl , says Dessel, although she encourages residents to share relationships that bring them joy and relieve loneliness with their families. The Hebrew Home does notify families of residents with cognitive impairments when they are in relationships, but Dessel emphasizes that the way the family is approached is key. She holds the view that the facility is informing the family of the situation, not requesting permission for the resident to be in the relationship. She points out that even if residents have Alzheimer's disease Alzheimer's disease (ăls`hī'mərz, ôls–), degenerative disease of nerve cells in the cerebral cortex that leads to atrophy of the brain and senile dementia. and cannot communicate verbally, they still can indicate their choices; if two residents are drawn together and obviously enjoy their time together, the facility and families cannot simply dismiss their relationship as an outgrowth of dementia. Taking this view, the Hebrew Home works wit h families as partners in care to address these often-sensitive situations. The facility also informs a family if someone from outside the nursing home community is involved with a resident.
Can a facility provide residents with so much privacy that the opportunity for abuse develops? Dessel doesn't think so. She says that residents are constantly interacting with caregivers, who will notice if something is wrong, and the more cognitively aware residents can say if they are being hurt in some way.
Covering All Aspects
Other issues come into the mix when discussing senior sexuality and intimacy. Residents might begin asking for lubrication lubrication, introduction of a substance between the contact surfaces of moving parts to reduce friction and to dissipate heat. A lubricant may be oil, grease, graphite, or any substance—gas, liquid, semisolid, or solid—that permits free action of products, pornography, double beds, and access to drugs like Viagra. Facilities also need to be mindful of the need for products to prevent the spread of sexually transmitted diseases Sexually transmitted diseases
Infections that are acquired and transmitted by sexual contact. Although virtually any infection may be transmitted during intimate contact, the term sexually transmitted disease is restricted to conditions that are largely . Injuries incurred during sex between aging residents certainly are no laughing matter No Laughing Matter is an episode of U.S. Acres from the series Garfield and Friends. It was the 74th episode produced for the series, although it is listed as the 71st episode on the Garfield and Friends DVD. It originally aired on October 21, 1989. . And, as with many elements of nursing home care, management needs to be ready for possible legal issues (see Legal Landscape, p. 62).
Providing an environment that allows seniors to express themselves in sexual and intimate ways is not easy for many facilities, and probably never will be. Says Dessel: "There is no formula. There is no science. We're all new at this in the sense of trying to recognize and sanction the sexual rights of residents in long-term care long-term care (LTC),
n the provision of medical, social, and personal care services on a recurring or continuing basis to persons with chronic physical or mental disorders. ." But facilities are not new to addressing complicated care issues. With the right investment of time and resources, nursing homes can make another element of life once again a pleasurable experience for residents. NH