Poser much?

My friends say I act different around guys. I guess it's my way of flirting. How do I make myself stop?

It's very important for a guy to like the real you, so be yourself at all times. Ask your friends to point out how you change when boys are around. Maybe you ignore your buds, giggle constantly or act like a ditz. By figuring out exactly what it is you do, you'll know what kind of behavior you need to stop. Come up with a secret gesture your friends can do to remind you when you slip into boy-flirt mode.

My dad is so strict. I know he loves me, but he doesn't really show it. I even heard my mom talking to her sister about it.

Your dad is strict because he loves you, but strictness can be overbearing. Tell your dad you respect his rules and know he cares about you, but that it'd be nice if he loosened up a bit. Let him know an occasional kind word goes a long way. Also, maybe your mom could discuss this with your dad instead of your aunt.

I found out my brother goes to porn sites, and it freaks me out! He was my role model, and now I'm afraid to be around him. I know i shouldn't be shaken up, but it really weirds me out.

It's hard to understand boys' fascination with pornography. But, fact is, most guys look at X-rated magazines or surf porn sites at some point in their lives. Even though the majority of boys are curious about it, though, most girls can't understand why they do it. This is one of those major differences between girls and guys. So, even though some exploration is a normal teenage guy thing, it's also completely natural for you to feel uncomfortable about it. Talk to a friend you can trust or write in a journal about your concerns. Even though there's probably no reason to feel uneasy or weird around your brother, getting your feelings out will help you feel less freaked about your discovery.

I started the school year pretending to be someone I'm not. I'm too far into this fake person. If I don't show my true self, the real me might get lost for good. But I like my new popularity

If you think you are losing sight of the real you, please listen to your instincts. Sitting at the popular table might be fun for now--but not at the cost of losing your true self. Make a list of things you like about yourself, then make a list of what is important to you. This will help you see and honor who you really are. Read these fists each morning, then remember to act like the person who wrote them. If your popular friends don't appreciate the real you, they are not real friends. At the end of the day, the most important thing is that you are happy and proud of who you are. Save the fake personas for drama class.

THAT'S A TOUGHIE ...

My friend's brother likes me, Should I let him know I like him back or just let it go?

First, ask your friend how she feels about it. If she is totally opposed to a relationship between you and her brother, respect that. After all, things could get pretty awkward if you and your friend's brother were to break up--she'd be stuck in the middle, so it's important to honor your friendship. But if your bud is fine with it, go ahead and let her brother know the feelings are mutual.