Mum might stop us staying with dad.
Q MY mum and dad don't live together. My brother and I spend most weekends with him when he's at home which we enjoy.
My brother is 13 and I am15.We watch DVDs with my dad and play computer games and have a good time. We get to eat what we want as well. I love staying with him.
My dad is much more chilled out than my mum.
So when I asked him if my girlfriend could stay over he was fine about it.
Then my mum found out after my brother told her and now she says we are not to go to my dad's if this is what is going to go on.
They have had a terrible fight about it and I am really upset.
My mum also looked at my phone and found photos of me smoking and my brother and me drinking lager.
My dad would never let us drink too much alcohol and he doesn't like me smoking either.
But my mum is blaming him for that as well and it is not fair.
My brother is also very upset, but I am angry with him because he was the one who told my mum about my girlfriend and caused all the trouble.
I would like to live with my dad, but it's not possible because he works away a lot, sometimes for weeks at a time, so what do I do now?
A IN some ways you are very lucky because you have two parents who both clearly love you and your brother a lot.
So it's a huge shame that this has ended up happening. On the face of it, I have to agree with your mum.
Whether you like it or not, the law says you're too young to have sex, which means no girls staying over.
It's the same, too, with cigarettes and alcohol. That is why your mum made such a fuss.
As far as I can see, however, she's only threatening to prevent you pair from going over to stay with your dad.
She just wants him to use a little more common sense - and you two need to do the same as well. I'm sure he misses you and your brother a lot and wants you to have a really good time when you are staying round at his.
However, letting you two kids do what you want isn't necessarily in your best interests.
Hopefully your parents can sort this out between them and come up with a set of rules about what is and isn't allowed, not only in her house but in also when you stay with your father.
You can help by promising you'll try to ditch the fags and won't s drink either.