Instant Messaging Etiquette

Today, many people are using the Internet to meet new people. Tools such as chat rooms, email, and instant messaging are becoming the norm in keeping up communication with a new partner. However, there are some rules that apply when using the computer and not knowing these rules can leave you at a disadvantage. Instant messaging allows you to chat in real time, unlike email. Whether you are chatting through an instant messaging program or an online chat room, you should know what certain symbols or abbreviations mean, as well as feel comfortable speaking the new online language. Here is a list of various terms and abbreviations commonly associated with instant messaging programs.

Always read the TOS (Terms of Service)

Each instant messaging program will specify its own terms of service for using the program. Be sure to read these before you install and use the messenger service.

Type quickly and efficiently.

First, you should realize that instant messaging programs limit the amount of text you can type. You don''t need to write novels, just simply answer and reply to questions.

Begin each session with Hello and a brief introduction.

Asking if it is a good time to chat is recommended. Some people may not have the time to chat and may have neglected to put up an away or busy message.

Don''t'' be too strict with grammar and spelling.

Although you don''t want your posts to be full of grammatical errors, instant messaging is in real time, therefore speed is more important than a few typos.

Don''t be upset if the other person doesn''t have time to chat.

Not everyone has time to chat. Never take it personally if someone doesn''t respond to your instant messaging sessions. Always ask if they have time to chat beforehand. If you are chatting and they suddenly disappear, don''t take it personally. They may be having computer issues or may have needed to restart their program.

Never take offense at quick responses.

What may seem rude in face-to-face conversation is not necessarily rudeness when chatting online. Quick responses help keep the chat session flowing and aren''t an indication of disrespect.

Always adjust your Instant Messaging Status.

Use the preset status messages or create your own, but always let your buddies no if you are busy, away from your computer, or available to chat.

Always respect other users Instant Messaging status.

If another user has their instant messaging set to "Do Not Disturb" respect their wishes and don''t send them instant messages until they change their status settings.

Here is a listing of standard Instant Messaging abbreviations:

ASAP- As soon as possible
ASL or A/S/L- age, sex, and location
BBS- Be back soon
BBL- Be back later
BFN- Bye for now
CU- See you
CUA- See you around
CWYL- Chat with you later
FYI- For your information
G2G- Got to go
IG2R- I got to run
ILU- I love you
ILY- I love you
IMHO- In my humble opinion
IMO- In my opinion
IYKWIM- If you know what I mean
JK- Just kidding
L8R- Later
LOL- Laugh out Loud
NP- No problem
OMG- Oh my god
PM- private message
ROFL- Rolling on floor laughing
TGIF- Thank god it''s Friday
THX- Thanks
TTYL- Talk to you later
UGTBK- You''ve got to be kidding
WYSIWYG- What you see is what you get
X- kiss
YW- You''re Welcome

Ron Zvagelsky has a degree in Business Administration from the University of Southern California. Use PlanJam.com to find date ideas and fun things to do.