I DON'T KNOW WHERE TO GRIEVE FOR MY LOST BOY; BABY ASHES SCANDAL.. Linsay told by email son's ashes disposed of in secret 7 years ago.
A MOTHER learned by email yesterday that her dead baby son's ashes were secretly scattered at a crematorium - seven years after being told none existed.
Linsay Bonar only discovered Lachlan's remains were "dispersed" at Daldowie Crematorium, Glasgow, after she made inquiries in the wake of the baby ashes scandal in Edinburgh.
She has no idea where her tot's ashes were scattered. With no physical reminder of Lachlan, the Bonar family had an inscribed bench erected at Chatelherault Country Park, near Hamilton.
Linsay said: "We are now left with the question of whether we still go to the park to remember him or the crematorium."
Bereaved parents support group SANDS raised the alarm about ashes being secretly buried at the capital's Mortonhall Crematorium last month.
They believe procedures at councilrun facilities in Glasgow, Aberdeen and Kirkcaldy should also be probed"as part of an independent inquiry.
Linsay's case is one of the first toemerge outside Edinburgh.
She said: "This could snowball into"Isomething massive. How many parents out there have not EVENconsidered asking the question?"This email came as a bolt from theblue and it takes us right back to themoment when we lost Lachlan."
Lachlan was born on January 26, 2006, but developed a brain conditionand died 33 hours later. Linsay, 30, andhusband David, 36, were devastated.
He weighed 8lbs 2oz but Linsaysaid they were told by undertakersthat no ashes would be left over from"Ithe cremation at Daldowie.
But this week, Linsay supplied" Lachlan's details to Glasgow CityCouncil, along with those of OTHERdead babies whose parents hadcontacted charity SANDS in the wake of the Edinburgh revelations.
John Downes, acting bereavement services manager and registrar, replied by email to say that Lachlan's "cremated remains were dispersed in the gardens of remembrance at Daldowie in accordance with the instruction from the applicant for cremation". Linsay, of Blackwood, Lanarkshire, believes the "applicant" to be undertakers Henry Dorricott Funeral Services in Larkhall.
Linsay - who has an eight-year-old daughter and sons aged five and four - said: "Until this week, we had had no feedback to tell us there were ashes left over.
"At the moment, I'm still trying to establish where the ashes are or even if it is recorded where they are."
A spokesman for Henry DorricottFuneral Services yesterday insistedthe remains had been scattered on LINSAY's husband's instructions.
HE said: "We realise that this wouldhave been a very distressing time forboth parents but we were carryingout the instructions of our client.
"The cremated remains of the BABYwere scattered in the gardens ofremembrance at the crematorium as per the instructions of Mr Bonar when arranging the funeral.
"A copy of the paperwork signed by Mr Bonar was given to Mrs Bonar when she visited the funeral home to explain that we were following the instructions of her husband."
But David said: "I never instructed anybody. It was explained before the funeral that there would be no ashes and we weren't aware of the existence of any until Tuesday of this week."
Experts say there are occasions when no tangible remains are left after the cremation of an infant or foetal remains due to the "cartilaginous" bone structure.
But it was discovered last month that staff at council-run Mortonhall in Edinburgh had buried babies' ashes in a mass grave without parents being told. It is thought the practice went on from the 1960s until 2011.
More than 100,000 Edinburgh cremation records from the past 40 years are being independently audit, but council officers want an independent person appointed to oversee the probe into Mortonhall.
They believe it should look at policy and practice in other areas after initial inquiries suggested "variations in practice across Scotland".
Edinburgh City Council chief executive Sue Bruce will hold talks with the Scottish Government on issues arising from the investigation that could be "of national importance".
SANDS Lothians operations manager Dorothy Maitland said she was convinced ashes had been withheld elsewhere. She said parents had called them about council crematoriums in Aberdeen, Kirkcaldy and Glasgow.
She said: "In most cases, they are able to recover ashes from babies, yet it's clear that in some areas parents are being told differently.
"I think Mortonhall could well be just the tip of the iceberg."
'sDorothy, who discovered the ashesof her daughter Kaelen, who died aged nine days old in 1986, had been buried in Mortonhall's grounds without her knowledge, said SANDS had also taken calls from England.
Glasgow City Council run twocrematoriums, Linn and Daldowie.
ENVIRONMENTAL services executive director Brian Devlin said: "Staff work closely with maternity units, funeral directors and groups representing bereaved parents to ensure families have all the information they need to make decisions about their child's burial or cremation.
"Any questions they have are answered clearly and sensitively. Our priority is to ensure that remains are treated with proper respect."
SANDS said questions have also been raised about procedures at council-run Kirkcaldy Crematorium in Fife.
One woman said she had been told not to expect ashes after a cremation of a baby boy there in 2003 - but eventually did get them after an undertaker family friend intervened. Liz Murphy, bereavement services manager in Fife, said yesterday: "Any remains from any cremation will always be offered to a family.
"However, in line with national guidance, we advise parents that on most occasions with a cremation of this nature there won't be any remains because a skeleton isn't formed until late in a baby's development.
"If there are ashes and the family asks us to scatter them, both our crematoriums have baby areas designated within the gardens of remembrance for families to visit."
A spokesman for Aberdeen City Council said: "Parents and guardians are told there will be no remains after the cremation of an infant.
"Our staff will also advise parents/ guardians that if there are remains we will advise them so they can scatter or bury them as they wish.
"We are not aware of any occasions where we have scattered or buried remains without liaising with the family."
'This could snowball into something massive. Howmany parents haven't even asked?'
SHOCKING Z Email from Glasgow City Council reveals that Lachlan's ashes were scattered at Daldowie. Family say they knew nothing
TENDER 3MOMENT Linsay holds Lachlan before he died
DISTRESSING 3 Linsay sits on Lachlan's memorial bench. But now she knows his ashes are at Daldowie, above
TOUCHING J A plaque on the bench commemorates Lachlan. The bench gave the Bonars somewhere to go to mourn their lost son. Now they are confused
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|Publication:||Daily Record (Glasgow, Scotland)|
|Date:||Jan 11, 2013|
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