How can I forget husband's fling; ask anna The answer to your problems.Byline: Ask anna
QABOUT 18 months ago I went away for a short holiday without my husband.
When I came back he confessed that he'd had a one-night stand one-night stand
a. A performance by a traveling musical or dramatic performer or group in one place on one night only.
b. The place at which such a performance is given.
2. with a woman who lives locally.
I was desperately hurt and humiliated hu·mil·i·ate
tr.v. hu·mil·i·at·ed, hu·mil·i·at·ing, hu·mil·i·ates
To lower the pride, dignity, or self-respect of. See Synonyms at degrade. , but he promised me it wouldn't would·n't
Contraction of would not.
wouldn't would not
wouldn't would happen again and we tried to patch things up.
It then turned out she was pregnant. She is married and the baby is being brought up as her husband's, and I don't think he knows about his wife's fling.
The timing, though, is right for it to be my husband's child, and every time she sees me she gives a self-satisfied smile.
I thought I could handle his affair, but seeing this woman and her child on a regular basis, I'm not so sure that I can.
GERALDINE, Birmingham QFOCUS on restoring your relationship with your husband, Geraldine.
If this woman is passing the baby off as her husband's, she surely has a lot to lose if the story of her brief affair got out.
So much so, I do wonder if you are not misinterpreting what you are seeing.
If she knows you know about their fling, what you see as a self-satisfied smile may be a desperate appeal to you not to say anything.
And you can't know for sure. I suggest you consider counselling, perhaps through Relate. Call 0300 100 1234 to find your nearest branch or look online at relate.org.uk