HIV shock for wife of drug bust Tory.
Musclebound Cole Tucker said: "I have been HIV for a long time but I don't have full- blown AIDS.
"I told Tom about my condition - but I don't know if he told his wife."
Speaking from his home in Boston, 45-year-old Tucker said he informed Spencer just after they met in an Atlanta gay bar eight months ago.
He claimed: "Nothing has happened that could affect Tom. I practise safe sex."
Tucker is a salesman when he is not making hardcore porn and advertising himself on the Internet as a male escort.
He was 50-year-old Spencer's partner on a weekend in Amsterdam which led to the downfall of the politician.
Cocaine, cannabis and porn were found last month in the Tory's luggage after he returned from Europe's sex and drugs capital.
Tucker also told how he fell for Spencer's "quiet dignity" after a heart-to-heart about global warming.
Tucker said: "We had an intelligent conversation. One of Tom's passions is global warming - we both feel strongly about it. Tom Spencer is a very fine man."
The "actor" said he waited for their second date before sleeping with father- of-two Spencer and added: "There is nothing seedy about our relationship - the sexual side only developed after our first meeting.
"I find him very good company and was not aware at first he was a Euro MP.
"He made it clear from the word go that he was a family man and his wife and children come first.
"I have never met his family but it is clear he is very fond of them."
Spencer says the pornography discovered with the drugs in his luggage was bought in France specifically because it featured the "talents" of his lover.
After trying to brazen out the scandal, Spencer, a former leader of the Tories in Europe, bowed to pressure on Sunday and announced he will not contest his Surrey seat in June.
He describes Tucker as "extremely bright and intelligent" and admits they became very fond of each other after meeting.
Spencer added: "The films Customs found were of my friend."
The MEP's wife, Liz, has stood by him despite knowing for years of his gay double life.
Earlier yesterday, before the HIV revelation, she said she accepted her husband's affair with Tucker.
She joked: "Jealous? Do you really think I would want a body like that?"
Tucker's tattooed torso, complete with 47-inch chest, has made him one of the top actors in America's gay sex industry.
He was named as Performer of the Year and Best Supporting Actor at a recent video awards ceremony.
Tucker enjoys talking about his sexual prowess.
In a recent interview posted on the Internet, he described himself as "kinky as all hell".
He added: "This is a profession, a craft you must learn.
"Try to imagine having sex for eight hours with as many as 10 people on the set watching, and then think about making it really hot sex.
"Making films like this is very hard.
"It takes someone who can function, both as an actor and a sexual performer, for many hours.
"One also needs a natural talent that leads towards exhibitionism.
"Many are called but few are chosen - most guys find out very quickly that it's not for them."
Tucker says he started making pornography at 40 after being spotted in the street by a video company.
He said: "I took a long hard look at where my life was at and started to get honest with my sexuality.
"I got a great tattoo and worked out six days a week.
"For this kind of work, you must be in great shape at all times.
"Doing this is a fantasy come true but it is a very short-term thing. My whole life is not going to change just because I have made a few films."
Tucker says he is single but adds: "When I am involved it is for keeps. I don't bail out at the first sign of trouble.
"A worthwhile relationship is hard work but anything worth having is always hard work.
"I like very many different types of men.
"I tend toward older, masculine guys with lots of hair - but I don't rule anyone out."
While Tucker waxes lyrical on life and love, Spencer is proving his ability to embarrass his party has not disappeared with his resignation.
He insisted he will keep his high-profile role as chairman of the European Parliament's Foreign Affairs Committee until June, despite being banned from all activities of the Tory group.
At his Surrey mansion, he said: "I've got a job to do and I want to keep doing it. I've had lots of support from MEPs across the Continent who don't understand this English fascination with the private lives of public figures.
"I loved being an MEP because I had the power to change things. But by one act of stupidity, I have reduced my capacity to make a difference."
The Tory hierarchy would love him to vanish quietly, despite his wife's insistence he was not pressured to resign. Mrs Spencer said: "It was his decision alone, taken for the sake of friends, family and constituents."
Up to now, she has shown amazing stoicism.
She revealed the family even managed to look positively at the media attention.
She said: "There were some lovely photos taken of us and we would love copies. We've been trying to get some nice pictures of the family for ages."